Doing Things Differently In My Next 40 yrs....

I (43f) am a self aware people pleaser, built with too much compassion, empathetic to the point that things will sit with me longer than most people, I've always made "good girl" choices so that I wasn't judged or hidden parts of me for the same reason. That's been my 1st 40yrs...

I'm not unhappy with where I am today- at all! However, I can feel myself getting less tolerant of hearing judgemental family members. I've always been the dependable friend, and several friends are going through those life altering problems: divorce, teenagers being defiant and moving out, shitty/toxic relationships....of course they vent to me or feel I give solid advice. But it's all getting too overwhelming and I'm ready to step back and DO ME for my next 40 years.

Plus, I think I'm entering that pre-meno mess...so my emotions tend to be a little more- IDGAF or rough. That's super new for me! I feel selfish or that I'm overreacting....

Have any of you had a similar- "light switch" moments like this? Tell me your story 😁