I blocked everything related to my avoidant ex (32F)

About a month and a half ago, my ex (32F) blindsided me by suddenly ending our 3-year relationship, including 1 year of living together. She threw out the usual excuses: "I don’t see a future, you lack ambition, we talked about this six months ago, we have different values." It felt surreal—like I was dodging bullets in slow motion—because I knew in that shocking moment that none of it was true.

Looking back, I think I triggered her after we spent a week on vacation with her parents. Her parents made negative jokes about me, there was no emotional connection, and the conversations were so superficial and grandiose—just constant talk about how amazing their jobs were. I felt completely like an outsider. I brought up to my ex how her parents talked about me, and her response was, "You should tell them yourself." That struck me as odd since, in a relationship, I thought you’re supposed to navigate these kinds of issues together.

She was extremely loyal to her parents—something she’d occasionally mention, like "My parents don’t approve of you" or "They’re concerned about how things will work out financially in the future." I found those comments strange, especially since I was doing well at work and in life.

Eventually, I ran into my ex randomly during a lunch break. She was so robotic—completely happy on the surface but showing no emotion when I said, "You broke my heart, and I still don’t know why you ended things." She didn’t even flinch. Afterwards I felt like I don't know who she really was or even is during our 3 year relationship. After reading and asking questions, I’ve come to understand more about avoidant personality types, and it’s given me peace. Looking back on our relationship, I realize there was no real emotional connection or intimacy. All I got were gifts and love letters—there was nothing about her attachment style or past traumas.

I’ve come to terms with the fact that I was dealing with someone who had narcissistic tendencies. It was all just smoke and mirrors. The relationship was strange, but I was blind to it at the time. Early on, she suggested we go for a walk about a month after the breakup. That’s supposed to happen next Wednesday, but I’ve decided to block everything and leave it at that.

I don’t care what she or her parents think of me—they’re toxic anyway. Avoidants twist everything to make themselves seem like they were in the right. It doesn’t matter to me anymore. I know I was there for her, supporting her emotionally and financially. I feel used, but I’m done. I’m walking away in silence because I have nothing to explain—she does.

I have this gut feeling she’ll jump right back into dating, chasing the next dopamine rush, finding her next “project” to love-bomb and manipulate. But that’s not my concern anymore. I’ve blocked her phone, email, and social media. I don’t need the walk or closure to receive her shame—I’m leaving her to deal with it herself. I’m done with what she’s put me through. Peace.