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"isSaved": false, "isStickied": false, "isScoreHidden": false, "next": {"id": "t1_l8msjqq", "type": "comment"}, "parentId": null, "permalink": "/r/DID/comments/1dfyyq7/crime_victims_did_you_make_a_police_report_pls/l8mn1x3/", "prev": null, "postAuthor": null, "postId": "t3_1dfyyq7", "postTitle": null, "score": 36, "sendReplies": true, "subredditId": "t5_2s73v", "voteState": 0, "bodyMD": "Never went to the cops. They found us, they left us there. Not to deter anyone else, I lived somewhere specifically where the cops were negligent. But they never even tried", "body": "

Never went to the cops. They found us, they left us there. Not to deter anyone else, I lived somewhere specifically where the cops were negligent. But they never even tried

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I did not. It would be my word against his so I can't prove it happened.

"}, "t1_l8n6875": {"author": "DreamSoarer", "authorId": "t2_kkhwje3b", "collapsed": false, "collapsedReason": null, "collapsedBecauseCrowdControl": null, "collapsedReasonCode": null, "created": 1718401332.0, "depth": 0, "deletedBy": null, "distinguishType": null, "editedAt": null, "gildings": null, "goldCount": 0, "id": "t1_l8n6875", "isAdmin": false, "isDeleted": false, "isGildable": false, "isLocked": false, "isMod": false, "isOp": false, "isSaved": false, "isStickied": false, "isScoreHidden": false, "next": {"id": "t1_l8n0gqs", "type": "comment"}, "parentId": null, "permalink": "/r/DID/comments/1dfyyq7/crime_victims_did_you_make_a_police_report_pls/l8n6875/", "prev": {"id": "t1_l8msjqq", "type": "comment"}, "postAuthor": null, "postId": "t3_1dfyyq7", "postTitle": null, "score": 27, "sendReplies": true, "subredditId": "t5_2s73v", "voteState": 0, "bodyMD": "I was forced to in 2021. It left me humiliated, suicidal, without justice, and shattered my life. Where I live, if you are officially disabled, the physician must report any suspected or known violence/assault/abuse/harm for any of their patients. I was not aware of that when I was taken for medical care after the trauma.\n\nThere was little to no trust with my system concerning those who are supposed to protect, serve, and carry out justice. They never did the right thing in the past, why would they do the right thing now?\n\nI will never report anything again, should anything ever happen again - may God forbid. If so need medical care, I will not explain why or I will tell partial truths to avoid any required legal action. The system is not made for us. We are not considered stable witnesses, and \u201cinsufficient evidence\u201d is all I have ever heard or expect to hear.\n\nI am not saying that no one should ever report crime. Just be aware of what you will be dealing with, what will be asked of you, what will be required of you, how your life will be scrutinized in every way, and make sure you have an excellent personal support network and plans for safety during and after whatever the process of reporting, investigating, and any litigation may include.\n\nI\u2019m sorry you were targeted, and hope very much you will find support and healing, whatever route you may take. \ud83d\ude4f\ud83e\udd8b", "body": "

I was forced to in 2021. It left me humiliated, suicidal, without justice, and shattered my life. Where I live, if you are officially disabled, the physician must report any suspected or known violence/assault/abuse/harm for any of their patients. I was not aware of that when I was taken for medical care after the trauma.

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There was little to no trust with my system concerning those who are supposed to protect, serve, and carry out justice. They never did the right thing in the past, why would they do the right thing now?

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I will never report anything again, should anything ever happen again - may God forbid. If so need medical care, I will not explain why or I will tell partial truths to avoid any required legal action. The system is not made for us. We are not considered stable witnesses, and \u201cinsufficient evidence\u201d is all I have ever heard or expect to hear.

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I am not saying that no one should ever report crime. Just be aware of what you will be dealing with, what will be asked of you, what will be required of you, how your life will be scrutinized in every way, and make sure you have an excellent personal support network and plans for safety during and after whatever the process of reporting, investigating, and any litigation may include.

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I\u2019m sorry you were targeted, and hope very much you will find support and healing, whatever route you may take. \ud83d\ude4f\ud83e\udd8b

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Cops in my town are incompetent at DV cases. On my alt account on my towns subreddit I was actually told that they're not trained for situations regarding abuse, neglect, or anything domestic related.

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I've called and called in my past. I'd get told that I'm a prank caller or I'm overeggagerating (idk how to spell that sorry) or they would go up to my parents and just directly ask them if they abuse us. Obviously why tf would they say yes? And would also provide excuses like "ohhh they're just spoiled! Pffftt"

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The one time they DID decide there is a situation. I got arrested instead. I deadass felt like they went "eenie meenie miney moe" and picked the clearly terrified, beaten up victim on the floor having a panic attack.

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I'd rather endure more trauma and find a quiet way to escape instead if depending on law enforcement.

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Even other cops at the jail were like "wtf why ru here?" When I told this to them

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I\u2019m so sorry you experienced that.\u00a0

"}, "t1_l8oosdc": {"author": "[deleted]", "authorId": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsedReason": null, "collapsedBecauseCrowdControl": null, "collapsedReasonCode": null, "created": 1718426275.0, "depth": 2, "deletedBy": null, "distinguishType": null, "editedAt": null, "gildings": null, "goldCount": 0, "id": "t1_l8oosdc", "isAdmin": false, "isDeleted": false, "isGildable": false, "isLocked": false, "isMod": false, "isOp": false, "isSaved": false, "isStickied": false, "isScoreHidden": false, "next": {"id": "t1_l8mkpq6", "type": "comment"}, "parentId": "t1_l8ooijz", "permalink": "/r/DID/comments/1dfyyq7/crime_victims_did_you_make_a_police_report_pls/l8oosdc/", "prev": {"id": "t1_l8ooijz", "type": "comment"}, "postAuthor": null, "postId": "t3_1dfyyq7", "postTitle": null, "score": 7, "sendReplies": true, "subredditId": "t5_2s73v", "voteState": 0, "bodyMD": "I rlly appreciate your sympathy. I actually do.\n\nIt made me feel a little better. Pls have a great rest of your day and drink water :)", "body": "

I rlly appreciate your sympathy. I actually do.

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It made me feel a little better. Pls have a great rest of your day and drink water :)

"}, "t1_l8mkpq6": {"author": "ConfidentMachine", "authorId": "t2_288s3siq", "collapsed": false, "collapsedReason": null, "collapsedBecauseCrowdControl": null, "collapsedReasonCode": null, "created": 1718393792.0, "depth": 0, "deletedBy": null, "distinguishType": null, "editedAt": null, "gildings": null, "goldCount": 0, "id": "t1_l8mkpq6", "isAdmin": false, "isDeleted": false, "isGildable": false, "isLocked": false, "isMod": false, "isOp": false, "isSaved": false, "isStickied": false, "isScoreHidden": false, "next": {"id": "t1_l8mnn2c", "type": "comment"}, "parentId": null, "permalink": "/r/DID/comments/1dfyyq7/crime_victims_did_you_make_a_police_report_pls/l8mkpq6/", "prev": {"id": "t1_l8oosdc", "type": "comment"}, "postAuthor": null, "postId": "t3_1dfyyq7", "postTitle": null, "score": 28, "sendReplies": true, "subredditId": "t5_2s73v", "voteState": 0, "bodyMD": "we havent and have never even considered making a police report. what good would it do? even best case, other peoples sense of \"justice served\" doesnt undo anything done to me, i dont get any kind of monetary reward for him going to jail. \n\nthe much more common worse case, like you said, incest abuse rape of a child carries barely any sentence here. we would be dragged through a public trial where he gets to make up any lies he wants to about us that go on the record, and he would come out untouched. its not like we have much physical evidence after this long, beyond scarring that he can say came from anywhere. why would they take our word over his?\n\ntheres nothing to be gained, all i can do is pray for his death before bed every night", "body": "

we havent and have never even considered making a police report. what good would it do? even best case, other peoples sense of "justice served" doesnt undo anything done to me, i dont get any kind of monetary reward for him going to jail.

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the much more common worse case, like you said, incest abuse rape of a child carries barely any sentence here. we would be dragged through a public trial where he gets to make up any lies he wants to about us that go on the record, and he would come out untouched. its not like we have much physical evidence after this long, beyond scarring that he can say came from anywhere. why would they take our word over his?

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theres nothing to be gained, all i can do is pray for his death before bed every night

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but i wont say i havent thought of it. he got a new girlfriend for the first time in 20 years, he told me she had two daughters and i think i had a week long sustained panic attack. everyone was fighting and trying to decide if or how we should tell them to get out of there fast. if we should bring charges after so long for those girls' safety. soon after we found out her daughters were adults that didnt live with her anymore, ive never felt more relief in my entire life.

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we dream about the day we can go to his funeral and announce what a monster he was to his family, let them all know how badly they failed to help these kids because "he just seemed so nice/normal, he cant have done all that" and everything else we were told while desperately trying to get adults to help. but i dont even know if we could make it to the funeral, or if we would just start a downward spiral in a race to hit oblivion

"}, "t1_l8osapt": {"author": "bockyweez", "authorId": "t2_e3gzrg35", "collapsed": false, "collapsedReason": null, "collapsedBecauseCrowdControl": null, "collapsedReasonCode": null, "created": 1718428520.0, "depth": 2, "deletedBy": null, "distinguishType": null, "editedAt": null, "gildings": null, "goldCount": 0, "id": "t1_l8osapt", "isAdmin": false, "isDeleted": false, "isGildable": false, "isLocked": false, "isMod": false, "isOp": false, "isSaved": false, "isStickied": false, "isScoreHidden": false, "next": {"id": "t1_l8nrct7", "type": "comment"}, "parentId": "t1_l8mnn2c", "permalink": "/r/DID/comments/1dfyyq7/crime_victims_did_you_make_a_police_report_pls/l8osapt/", "prev": {"id": "t1_l8mnn2c", "type": "comment"}, "postAuthor": null, "postId": "t3_1dfyyq7", "postTitle": null, "score": 4, "sendReplies": true, "subredditId": "t5_2s73v", "voteState": 0, "bodyMD": "Just an FYI, in the US, you can submit an anonymous report to child protective services about a person in the area they live in... I'm pretty sure that one report won't cause any action when anonymous (esp. if the person isn't around kids... at the most, they might go talk to the person, but kinda doubtful), but it can be helpful if they ever get additional reports about the same person -- they might actually investigate.", "body": "

Just an FYI, in the US, you can submit an anonymous report to child protective services about a person in the area they live in... I'm pretty sure that one report won't cause any action when anonymous (esp. if the person isn't around kids... at the most, they might go talk to the person, but kinda doubtful), but it can be helpful if they ever get additional reports about the same person -- they might actually investigate.

"}, "t1_l8nrct7": {"author": "ADHDpuppynamedturtle", "authorId": "t2_pmzt2z3v3", "collapsed": false, "collapsedReason": null, "collapsedBecauseCrowdControl": null, "collapsedReasonCode": null, "created": 1718410123.0, "depth": 0, "deletedBy": null, "distinguishType": null, "editedAt": null, "gildings": null, "goldCount": 0, "id": "t1_l8nrct7", "isAdmin": false, "isDeleted": false, "isGildable": false, "isLocked": false, "isMod": false, "isOp": false, "isSaved": false, "isStickied": false, "isScoreHidden": false, "next": {"id": "t1_l8mxzqf", "type": "comment"}, "parentId": null, "permalink": "/r/DID/comments/1dfyyq7/crime_victims_did_you_make_a_police_report_pls/l8nrct7/", "prev": {"id": "t1_l8osapt", "type": "comment"}, "postAuthor": null, "postId": "t3_1dfyyq7", "postTitle": null, "score": 9, "sendReplies": true, "subredditId": "t5_2s73v", "voteState": 0, "bodyMD": "I made a police report when I was in the 8th grade. After I told my story they told me if I want to file charges it would be my word against theirs. Then another police officer ran from outside and explained to everyone that they found evidence that proved my side of the story. The police officer then told me that we can lock them away for a long time. I refused because I wanted it all to go away. I wasn\u2019t thinking that I had to face them in school. The things they said about me everyday. Everyone would look at me and laugh. I went into another dimension and was numb. One day I looked up and they were gone. I never saw them again until I was grown. That was the only crime I reported.", "body": "

I made a police report when I was in the 8th grade. After I told my story they told me if I want to file charges it would be my word against theirs. Then another police officer ran from outside and explained to everyone that they found evidence that proved my side of the story. The police officer then told me that we can lock them away for a long time. I refused because I wanted it all to go away. I wasn\u2019t thinking that I had to face them in school. The things they said about me everyday. Everyone would look at me and laugh. I went into another dimension and was numb. One day I looked up and they were gone. I never saw them again until I was grown. That was the only crime I reported.

"}, "t1_l8mxzqf": {"author": "EmbarrassedPurple106", "authorId": "t2_nuiwijfoq", "collapsed": false, "collapsedReason": null, "collapsedBecauseCrowdControl": null, "collapsedReasonCode": null, "created": 1718398321.0, "depth": 0, "deletedBy": null, "distinguishType": null, "editedAt": null, "gildings": null, "goldCount": 0, "id": "t1_l8mxzqf", "isAdmin": false, "isDeleted": false, "isGildable": false, "isLocked": false, "isMod": false, "isOp": false, "isSaved": false, "isStickied": false, "isScoreHidden": false, "next": {"id": "t1_l8nupb3", "type": "comment"}, "parentId": null, "permalink": "/r/DID/comments/1dfyyq7/crime_victims_did_you_make_a_police_report_pls/l8mxzqf/", "prev": {"id": "t1_l8nrct7", "type": "comment"}, "postAuthor": null, "postId": "t3_1dfyyq7", "postTitle": null, "score": 8, "sendReplies": true, "subredditId": "t5_2s73v", "voteState": 0, "bodyMD": "No, memories resurfaced long after the statute of limitations. I also have no physical proof, and I just don\u2019t wanna deal with it. It doesn\u2019t make a difference to me whether or not my abuser is in jail. As long as he stays the hell away from me.", "body": "

No, memories resurfaced long after the statute of limitations. I also have no physical proof, and I just don\u2019t wanna deal with it. It doesn\u2019t make a difference to me whether or not my abuser is in jail. As long as he stays the hell away from me.

"}, "t1_l8nupb3": {"author": "made_of_monsters", "authorId": "t2_np53jtjs1", "collapsed": false, "collapsedReason": null, "collapsedBecauseCrowdControl": null, "collapsedReasonCode": null, "created": 1718411602.0, "depth": 0, "deletedBy": null, "distinguishType": null, "editedAt": 1718411939.0, "gildings": null, "goldCount": 0, "id": "t1_l8nupb3", "isAdmin": false, "isDeleted": false, "isGildable": false, "isLocked": false, "isMod": false, "isOp": false, "isSaved": false, "isStickied": false, "isScoreHidden": false, "next": {"id": "t1_l91p740", "type": "comment"}, "parentId": null, "permalink": "/r/DID/comments/1dfyyq7/crime_victims_did_you_make_a_police_report_pls/l8nupb3/", "prev": {"id": "t1_l8mxzqf", "type": "comment"}, "postAuthor": null, "postId": "t3_1dfyyq7", "postTitle": null, "score": 8, "sendReplies": true, "subredditId": "t5_2s73v", "voteState": 0, "bodyMD": "i want to comment more but i don\u2019t have it in me. long story short, did. wouldn\u2019t again. it was horrible, they refused to run any tests - no rape kit, no toxin report (happened in my sleep, i slept for 16 hours), wouldn\u2019t take my underwear. went to the hospital, same ordeal, no tests. right to the psych ward. was humiliated, not taken seriously, long lasting negative effects, etc.\n\nnot everyone has that experience, if you report i hope it goes better for you <3\n\nedit: this was my only time reporting anything, and it was right after (same day) it happened", "body": "

i want to comment more but i don\u2019t have it in me. long story short, did. wouldn\u2019t again. it was horrible, they refused to run any tests - no rape kit, no toxin report (happened in my sleep, i slept for 16 hours), wouldn\u2019t take my underwear. went to the hospital, same ordeal, no tests. right to the psych ward. was humiliated, not taken seriously, long lasting negative effects, etc.

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not everyone has that experience, if you report i hope it goes better for you <3

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edit: this was my only time reporting anything, and it was right after (same day) it happened

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Omg that's horrific AF....

"}, "t1_l8n5mg1": {"author": "decomposinginstyle", "authorId": "t2_rznd25by", "collapsed": false, "collapsedReason": null, "collapsedBecauseCrowdControl": null, "collapsedReasonCode": null, "created": 1718401103.0, "depth": 0, "deletedBy": null, "distinguishType": null, "editedAt": null, "gildings": null, "goldCount": 0, "id": "t1_l8n5mg1", "isAdmin": false, "isDeleted": false, "isGildable": false, "isLocked": false, "isMod": false, "isOp": false, "isSaved": false, "isStickied": false, "isScoreHidden": false, "next": {"id": "t1_l8nal5c", "type": "comment"}, "parentId": null, "permalink": "/r/DID/comments/1dfyyq7/crime_victims_did_you_make_a_police_report_pls/l8n5mg1/", "prev": {"id": "t1_l91p740", "type": "comment"}, "postAuthor": null, "postId": "t3_1dfyyq7", "postTitle": null, "score": 7, "sendReplies": true, "subredditId": "t5_2s73v", "voteState": 0, "bodyMD": "i reported every crime i remembered my father and his ex wife committed. i am still dropping more info to my local authorities as i recover more memories. what made me choose to report was the desire to make it all \u201cnot my burden\u201d anymore. the guiltiness is my family\u2019s, i just had to see it all. i just got tired of carrying the burden of homicide and torture. it wasn\u2019t my fault, even if i still have to live with it, but at least the responsibility to dissect the situation isn\u2019t mine alone anymore.", "body": "

i reported every crime i remembered my father and his ex wife committed. i am still dropping more info to my local authorities as i recover more memories. what made me choose to report was the desire to make it all \u201cnot my burden\u201d anymore. the guiltiness is my family\u2019s, i just had to see it all. i just got tired of carrying the burden of homicide and torture. it wasn\u2019t my fault, even if i still have to live with it, but at least the responsibility to dissect the situation isn\u2019t mine alone anymore.

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"}, "t1_l8o8c06": {"author": "Puzzleheaded_Fox7279", "authorId": "t2_t920fyh3", "collapsed": false, "collapsedReason": null, "collapsedBecauseCrowdControl": null, "collapsedReasonCode": null, "created": 1718417679.0, "depth": 1, "deletedBy": null, "distinguishType": null, "editedAt": null, "gildings": null, "goldCount": 0, "id": "t1_l8o8c06", "isAdmin": false, "isDeleted": false, "isGildable": false, "isLocked": false, "isMod": false, "isOp": false, "isSaved": false, "isStickied": false, "isScoreHidden": false, "next": {"id": "t1_l8n3ygx", "type": "comment"}, "parentId": "t1_l8nal5c", "permalink": "/r/DID/comments/1dfyyq7/crime_victims_did_you_make_a_police_report_pls/l8o8c06/", "prev": {"id": "t1_l8nal5c", "type": "comment"}, "postAuthor": null, "postId": "t3_1dfyyq7", "postTitle": null, "score": 2, "sendReplies": true, "subredditId": "t5_2s73v", "voteState": 0, "bodyMD": "Yes!! Some crime have a long time span that you can make the report, which means that the physical evidence may be lost. To seek help in those places can be enlightening about the procedures, expectations and even help make your case stronger.\n\nSomething I found out a while ago is that (in some countries) if you seek a therapist, or leave a paper trail of starting psychiatric medication or needing to go up in the dose can be used as evidence if there's \"no physical proof\". For some crimes, developing digestive probless, especially thoses linked to stress sometimes can also be used. Searching for support groups, organisations and etc. on the matter can be used too because it shows consistent behavior of seeking help. It all can be done before even making the report, but used after the report to back u up.", "body": "

Yes!! Some crime have a long time span that you can make the report, which means that the physical evidence may be lost. To seek help in those places can be enlightening about the procedures, expectations and even help make your case stronger.

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Something I found out a while ago is that (in some countries) if you seek a therapist, or leave a paper trail of starting psychiatric medication or needing to go up in the dose can be used as evidence if there's "no physical proof". For some crimes, developing digestive probless, especially thoses linked to stress sometimes can also be used. Searching for support groups, organisations and etc. on the matter can be used too because it shows consistent behavior of seeking help. It all can be done before even making the report, but used after the report to back u up.

"}, "t1_l8n3ygx": {"author": "SapphicSaionji", "authorId": "t2_5c5lirpt", "collapsed": false, "collapsedReason": null, "collapsedBecauseCrowdControl": null, "collapsedReasonCode": null, "created": 1718400467.0, "depth": 0, "deletedBy": null, "distinguishType": null, "editedAt": null, "gildings": null, "goldCount": 0, "id": "t1_l8n3ygx", "isAdmin": false, "isDeleted": false, "isGildable": false, "isLocked": false, "isMod": false, "isOp": false, "isSaved": false, "isStickied": false, "isScoreHidden": false, "next": {"id": "t1_l8nnely", "type": "comment"}, "parentId": null, "permalink": "/r/DID/comments/1dfyyq7/crime_victims_did_you_make_a_police_report_pls/l8n3ygx/", "prev": {"id": "t1_l8o8c06", "type": "comment"}, "postAuthor": null, "postId": "t3_1dfyyq7", "postTitle": null, "score": 3, "sendReplies": true, "subredditId": "t5_2s73v", "voteState": 0, "bodyMD": "Report was filed but we weren't allowed to testify against him or press charges. We intend to pursue a case when the old fucks holding inheritance over our heads to not pursue charges against him finally kick the bucket.", "body": "

Report was filed but we weren't allowed to testify against him or press charges. We intend to pursue a case when the old fucks holding inheritance over our heads to not pursue charges against him finally kick the bucket.

"}, "t1_l8nnely": {"author": "colesense", "authorId": "t2_s293i", "collapsed": false, "collapsedReason": null, "collapsedBecauseCrowdControl": null, "collapsedReasonCode": null, "created": 1718408421.0, "depth": 0, "deletedBy": null, "distinguishType": null, "editedAt": null, "gildings": null, "goldCount": 0, "id": "t1_l8nnely", "isAdmin": false, "isDeleted": false, "isGildable": false, "isLocked": false, "isMod": false, "isOp": false, "isSaved": false, "isStickied": false, "isScoreHidden": false, "next": {"id": "t1_l8nnqb2", "type": "comment"}, "parentId": null, "permalink": "/r/DID/comments/1dfyyq7/crime_victims_did_you_make_a_police_report_pls/l8nnely/", "prev": {"id": "t1_l8n3ygx", "type": "comment"}, "postAuthor": null, "postId": "t3_1dfyyq7", "postTitle": null, "score": 3, "sendReplies": true, "subredditId": "t5_2s73v", "voteState": 0, "bodyMD": "I tried once but the police mocked me the entire time (I was 14 reporting a crime an adult did to me), confiscated my phone for \u201cevidence\u201d (I had no contact with said adult on my phone, there was no evidence on it), repeatedly messed up my statement forcing me to recount it over and over again, etc. it was a nightmare and I don\u2019t think I\u2019ll ever do that again.", "body": "

I tried once but the police mocked me the entire time (I was 14 reporting a crime an adult did to me), confiscated my phone for \u201cevidence\u201d (I had no contact with said adult on my phone, there was no evidence on it), repeatedly messed up my statement forcing me to recount it over and over again, etc. it was a nightmare and I don\u2019t think I\u2019ll ever do that again.

"}, "t1_l8nnqb2": {"author": "meloscav", "authorId": "t2_40flvth", "collapsed": false, "collapsedReason": null, "collapsedBecauseCrowdControl": null, "collapsedReasonCode": null, "created": 1718408561.0, "depth": 0, "deletedBy": null, "distinguishType": null, "editedAt": null, "gildings": null, "goldCount": 0, "id": "t1_l8nnqb2", "isAdmin": false, "isDeleted": false, "isGildable": false, "isLocked": false, "isMod": false, "isOp": false, "isSaved": false, "isStickied": false, "isScoreHidden": false, "next": {"id": "t1_l8nszqz", "type": "comment"}, "parentId": null, "permalink": "/r/DID/comments/1dfyyq7/crime_victims_did_you_make_a_police_report_pls/l8nnqb2/", "prev": {"id": "t1_l8nnely", "type": "comment"}, "postAuthor": null, "postId": "t3_1dfyyq7", "postTitle": null, "score": 4, "sendReplies": true, "subredditId": "t5_2s73v", "voteState": 0, "bodyMD": "We did not. We were assaulted by a friend and never reported it because there weren\u2019t any marks", "body": "

We did not. We were assaulted by a friend and never reported it because there weren\u2019t any marks

"}, "t1_l8nszqz": {"author": "Manospondylus_gigas", "authorId": "t2_48ksm25f", "collapsed": false, "collapsedReason": null, "collapsedBecauseCrowdControl": null, "collapsedReasonCode": null, "created": 1718410843.0, "depth": 0, "deletedBy": null, "distinguishType": null, "editedAt": null, "gildings": null, "goldCount": 0, "id": "t1_l8nszqz", "isAdmin": false, "isDeleted": false, "isGildable": false, "isLocked": false, "isMod": false, "isOp": false, "isSaved": false, "isStickied": false, "isScoreHidden": false, "next": {"id": "t1_l8n1y6o", "type": "comment"}, "parentId": null, "permalink": "/r/DID/comments/1dfyyq7/crime_victims_did_you_make_a_police_report_pls/l8nszqz/", "prev": {"id": "t1_l8nnqb2", "type": "comment"}, "postAuthor": null, "postId": "t3_1dfyyq7", "postTitle": null, "score": 4, "sendReplies": true, "subredditId": "t5_2s73v", "voteState": 0, "bodyMD": "We haven't because we are worried that we will somehow be blamed legally too, the UK justice system is shit and you get a criminal record if you are coerced into sending your own images as a child. Plus we are worried it won't go anywhere due to lack of solid evidence and it will just cost money and anger our abuser, so he might come after us", "body": "

We haven't because we are worried that we will somehow be blamed legally too, the UK justice system is shit and you get a criminal record if you are coerced into sending your own images as a child. Plus we are worried it won't go anywhere due to lack of solid evidence and it will just cost money and anger our abuser, so he might come after us

"}, "t1_l8n1y6o": {"author": "Xoxolovezzz", "authorId": "t2_n5bndh6i5", "collapsed": false, "collapsedReason": null, "collapsedBecauseCrowdControl": null, "collapsedReasonCode": null, "created": 1718399716.0, "depth": 0, "deletedBy": null, "distinguishType": null, "editedAt": null, "gildings": null, "goldCount": 0, "id": "t1_l8n1y6o", "isAdmin": false, "isDeleted": false, "isGildable": false, "isLocked": false, "isMod": false, "isOp": false, "isSaved": false, "isStickied": false, "isScoreHidden": false, "next": {"id": "t1_l8nhbh5", "type": "comment"}, "parentId": null, "permalink": "/r/DID/comments/1dfyyq7/crime_victims_did_you_make_a_police_report_pls/l8n1y6o/", "prev": {"id": "t1_l8nszqz", "type": "comment"}, "postAuthor": null, "postId": "t3_1dfyyq7", "postTitle": null, "score": 3, "sendReplies": true, "subredditId": "t5_2s73v", "voteState": 0, "bodyMD": "I have evidence from recent but it\u2019s not what I feel could be good enough. I\u2019m trying to make an escape but I can\u2019t leave my dogs, also can\u2019t get them rescued I\u2019ve tried everything for them. My dogs n I are just deteriorating but I want to runaway before my birthday and be reincarnated.", "body": "

I have evidence from recent but it\u2019s not what I feel could be good enough. I\u2019m trying to make an escape but I can\u2019t leave my dogs, also can\u2019t get them rescued I\u2019ve tried everything for them. My dogs n I are just deteriorating but I want to runaway before my birthday and be reincarnated.

"}, "t1_l8nhbh5": {"author": "Pandemonium_Sys", "authorId": "t2_10nc06m79c", "collapsed": false, "collapsedReason": null, "collapsedBecauseCrowdControl": null, "collapsedReasonCode": null, "created": 1718405821.0, "depth": 0, "deletedBy": null, "distinguishType": null, "editedAt": null, "gildings": null, "goldCount": 0, "id": "t1_l8nhbh5", "isAdmin": false, "isDeleted": false, "isGildable": false, "isLocked": false, "isMod": false, "isOp": false, "isSaved": false, "isStickied": false, "isScoreHidden": false, "next": {"id": "t1_l8o0jrg", "type": "comment"}, "parentId": null, "permalink": "/r/DID/comments/1dfyyq7/crime_victims_did_you_make_a_police_report_pls/l8nhbh5/", "prev": {"id": "t1_l8n1y6o", "type": "comment"}, "postAuthor": null, "postId": "t3_1dfyyq7", "postTitle": null, "score": 3, "sendReplies": true, "subredditId": "t5_2s73v", "voteState": 0, "bodyMD": "I haven't reported anything. The cops in my city have proven over and over again that they are incompetent bastards who should not hold the power they do. It's too dangerous for me to report anything and I don't have the money nor resources to take anyone to court. I also guarantee it would get me nowhere and just paint a bigger target on my back than I already have. And even if I could make a difference and report those who need to be and they go to jail, I have little siblings who would be taken into custody by the children's aid society and they are just as bad, if not worse, than the cops. I don't have the money to adopt them and I don't even have my own place. I'm legally homeless, have no job, and can't hold one due to my disabilities. I would never win in the court of law to adopt my siblings over the rest of my family which isn't any better. \n\nI've thought about this a lot because as much as I'd love to completely ruin my perpetrator's lives, they would probably get the lightest sentence if any sentence at all because one of them knows how to be a manipulative two-faced bitch. On top of that, I barely have solid evidence and I seriously doubt any of those who can be legal witnesses for me would side with me. So essentially... I'm stuck.", "body": "

I haven't reported anything. The cops in my city have proven over and over again that they are incompetent bastards who should not hold the power they do. It's too dangerous for me to report anything and I don't have the money nor resources to take anyone to court. I also guarantee it would get me nowhere and just paint a bigger target on my back than I already have. And even if I could make a difference and report those who need to be and they go to jail, I have little siblings who would be taken into custody by the children's aid society and they are just as bad, if not worse, than the cops. I don't have the money to adopt them and I don't even have my own place. I'm legally homeless, have no job, and can't hold one due to my disabilities. I would never win in the court of law to adopt my siblings over the rest of my family which isn't any better.

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I've thought about this a lot because as much as I'd love to completely ruin my perpetrator's lives, they would probably get the lightest sentence if any sentence at all because one of them knows how to be a manipulative two-faced bitch. On top of that, I barely have solid evidence and I seriously doubt any of those who can be legal witnesses for me would side with me. So essentially... I'm stuck.

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By the time we realized that what was happening wasn\u2019t normal plus the time it took to recover those memories and process them it was way too late. Our main abuser is dead and the only one that is alive and free we can\u2019t remember the face of. So sadly no, but we\u2019ve wanted to. Even if we did the proof is gone by now. I\u2019m not sure DID is enough proof for a court case.

\n\n

We did call CPS in high school but sadly they didn\u2019t really investigate them. They came to the house and just asked in front of our abuser if we were being abused\u2026 we were too terrified to say yes.

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Honestly it hurts that we can never get the justice we want.

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I didn't. I didn't want to subject myself to that kind of investigation, I'm a prison abolitionist and the perpetrator was at risk for serious harm if arrested, and I mostly just wanted her away from me. She moved away of her own accord. I think getting the police involved would have made the whole ordeal more traumatizing to me. I had friends who were supportive and who kept me feeling physically safe until she was gone.

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Only you can know if you want to report. There's nothing wrong with either decision. Interacting with police can be extremely stressful and upsetting and can often lead to just more trauma.

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No, we didn't report because we knew there wouldn't be a point. The damage was done and we had a friend who had been a victim before and reported it. They were made to be a laughing stock and the criminal only got a slap on the wrist.\nSo we chose instead to tell close friends, do therapy and psychiatry.

"}, "t1_l8nzcep": {"author": "Fail_North", "authorId": "t2_7sxzk5i6", "collapsed": false, "collapsedReason": null, "collapsedBecauseCrowdControl": null, "collapsedReasonCode": null, "created": 1718413668.0, "depth": 0, "deletedBy": null, "distinguishType": null, "editedAt": null, "gildings": null, "goldCount": 0, "id": "t1_l8nzcep", "isAdmin": false, "isDeleted": false, "isGildable": false, "isLocked": false, "isMod": false, "isOp": false, "isSaved": false, "isStickied": false, "isScoreHidden": false, "next": {"id": "t1_l8o29zq", "type": "comment"}, "parentId": null, "permalink": "/r/DID/comments/1dfyyq7/crime_victims_did_you_make_a_police_report_pls/l8nzcep/", "prev": {"id": "t1_l8nscdt", "type": "comment"}, "postAuthor": null, "postId": "t3_1dfyyq7", "postTitle": null, "score": 2, "sendReplies": true, "subredditId": "t5_2s73v", "voteState": 0, "bodyMD": "Yes once I got blamed for it and the da said not enough evidence I don\u2019t remember how many we got there. I think that\u2019s when they started showing themselves really", "body": "

Yes once I got blamed for it and the da said not enough evidence I don\u2019t remember how many we got there. I think that\u2019s when they started showing themselves really

"}, "t1_l8o29zq": {"author": "[deleted]", "authorId": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsedReason": null, "collapsedBecauseCrowdControl": null, "collapsedReasonCode": null, "created": 1718414968.0, "depth": 0, "deletedBy": null, "distinguishType": null, "editedAt": null, "gildings": null, "goldCount": 0, "id": "t1_l8o29zq", "isAdmin": false, "isDeleted": false, "isGildable": false, "isLocked": false, "isMod": false, "isOp": false, "isSaved": false, "isStickied": false, "isScoreHidden": false, "next": {"id": "t1_l8o4q0r", "type": "comment"}, "parentId": null, "permalink": "/r/DID/comments/1dfyyq7/crime_victims_did_you_make_a_police_report_pls/l8o29zq/", "prev": {"id": "t1_l8nzcep", "type": "comment"}, "postAuthor": null, "postId": "t3_1dfyyq7", "postTitle": null, "score": 2, "sendReplies": true, "subredditId": "t5_2s73v", "voteState": 0, "bodyMD": "By the time I realized what happened to me there wasn't any way to report it, no proof, no way to report it, nothing I can do.", "body": "

By the time I realized what happened to me there wasn't any way to report it, no proof, no way to report it, nothing I can do.

"}, "t1_l8o4q0r": {"author": "Existing-Committee74", "authorId": "t2_gwe2syyq5", "collapsed": false, "collapsedReason": null, "collapsedBecauseCrowdControl": null, "collapsedReasonCode": null, "created": 1718416059.0, "depth": 0, "deletedBy": null, "distinguishType": null, "editedAt": null, "gildings": null, "goldCount": 0, "id": "t1_l8o4q0r", "isAdmin": false, "isDeleted": false, "isGildable": false, "isLocked": false, "isMod": false, "isOp": false, "isSaved": false, "isStickied": false, "isScoreHidden": false, "next": {"id": "t1_l8oexql", "type": "comment"}, "parentId": null, "permalink": "/r/DID/comments/1dfyyq7/crime_victims_did_you_make_a_police_report_pls/l8o4q0r/", "prev": {"id": "t1_l8o29zq", "type": "comment"}, "postAuthor": null, "postId": "t3_1dfyyq7", "postTitle": null, "score": 2, "sendReplies": true, "subredditId": "t5_2s73v", "voteState": 0, "bodyMD": "In the context of the most recent incident, no. My mother said from the jump the decision was in my hands, I had full control. And yet since then she has been incredibly passive aggressive about my decision not to go to the police. She makes side comments and jabs about \u201cwell if he was in jail then blah blah blah\u201d\n\nAnd she continues to brag to my grandmother and cousins about how kind and generous she is for \u201cletting\u201d me choose to not go to the police. How she\u2019s such a good mother. \n\nI argued with myself about it a lot, but at the end of it I knew he\u2019d never do any time, if he even got arrested at all. It would only cause more stress and retraumatize me for no good and make him want to lash out at us. \n\nI\u2019m not the kind of person who needs any kind of recompense or payback when someone hurts me. All I need to is get away from it and move on. And a long court case and lawyer drama would\u2019ve made that impossible for me. \n\nIf you believe it would bring you peace to have some kind of justice, and you think you could take the hit if you don\u2019t get it, then going to the police could be very good for you. All that matters is what will help you heal.\n\nJust remember that even without going to the police or without them believing you, you are valid, and I believe you.", "body": "

In the context of the most recent incident, no. My mother said from the jump the decision was in my hands, I had full control. And yet since then she has been incredibly passive aggressive about my decision not to go to the police. She makes side comments and jabs about \u201cwell if he was in jail then blah blah blah\u201d

\n\n

And she continues to brag to my grandmother and cousins about how kind and generous she is for \u201cletting\u201d me choose to not go to the police. How she\u2019s such a good mother.

\n\n

I argued with myself about it a lot, but at the end of it I knew he\u2019d never do any time, if he even got arrested at all. It would only cause more stress and retraumatize me for no good and make him want to lash out at us.

\n\n

I\u2019m not the kind of person who needs any kind of recompense or payback when someone hurts me. All I need to is get away from it and move on. And a long court case and lawyer drama would\u2019ve made that impossible for me.

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If you believe it would bring you peace to have some kind of justice, and you think you could take the hit if you don\u2019t get it, then going to the police could be very good for you. All that matters is what will help you heal.

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Just remember that even without going to the police or without them believing you, you are valid, and I believe you.

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I went to police as I had a highly accurate account of what happened from my Alter. I'm not sure if it will go anywhere but it's more for peace of mind: we wouldn't be happy If we didn't at least try.

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i don\u2019t trust or talk to cops on principle esp bc i live in a super racist city where they are notoriously untrustworthy and also historically they bury dv and child abuse cases for years. it can be rly traumatizing to be forced to relive it analytically and if you switch talking about it they might see you as unreliable bc singlets don\u2019t trust us ime.

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i even told the school student resource officer at my high school when something illegal happened and he said there was nothing he could do :/

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realistically reporting the crime is unlikely to get you any structural support; a public callout or directly DMing people close to them might be more effective if you\u2019re looking for justice

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and if you\u2019re looking for comfort and a feeling of resolution unfortunately we have to work through that shit in therapy and reparenting and take care of our Selves. or if u tell us the vague nature of the crime and the country you live in we can suggest some support networks and crisis lines for you to reach out to

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sending support and comfort

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i was always told theyd do nothing or traumatize me, so i didnt. in 2021/2022 i watched my friend go through absolute hell, trauma, and destabilization as cops told her to her face she was lying....ive never seen anyone spiral so hard in a way that was so avoidable and completely caused by the people that should have brought her justice. i told her what to expect going in, but she really thought theyd care... haha. not laughing at her, but cops are soulless bastards....i had maybe %5 faith in cops pre my friend trying to recieve justice, how i firmly have 0 faith. i watched CPS spit my friends back out to their actively abusing households growing up too. its not worth it IMO. maybe in other areas it is but i just have zero faith, this system was built for the abusers. worst part? my friend was reporting her abuse so she could get a child out of an actively sexually abusing situation with her abusers... and cops just let it continue! and still are. we worry abt her all the time... she deserved justice too..

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I made an anonymous report to the FBI, State and City police, but I didn\u2019t make any official report because the man who did it is absolutely terrifying and I\u2019m not convinced he wouldn\u2019t murder me \ud83d\ude43 I wish I could though because he deserves the worst and I\u2019m so angry that he has somehow got away with so much

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"}, "t1_l91npo0": {"author": "Sufficient_Hat_1918", "authorId": "t2_bvh0hgcc", "collapsed": false, "collapsedReason": null, "collapsedBecauseCrowdControl": null, "collapsedReasonCode": null, "created": 1718652576.0, "depth": 0, "deletedBy": null, "distinguishType": null, "editedAt": null, "gildings": null, "goldCount": 0, "id": "t1_l91npo0", "isAdmin": false, "isDeleted": false, "isGildable": false, "isLocked": false, "isMod": false, "isOp": false, "isSaved": false, "isStickied": false, "isScoreHidden": false, "next": {"id": "t1_l91rv4r", "type": "comment"}, "parentId": null, "permalink": "/r/DID/comments/1dfyyq7/crime_victims_did_you_make_a_police_report_pls/l91npo0/", "prev": {"id": "t1_l90ey4r", "type": "comment"}, "postAuthor": null, "postId": "t3_1dfyyq7", "postTitle": null, "score": 2, "sendReplies": true, "subredditId": "t5_2s73v", "voteState": 0, "bodyMD": "Not usually. I'm used to being mostly dismissed or not taken seriously. It hasn't happened every time, but it's happened often enough that it's discouraging.", "body": "

Not usually. I'm used to being mostly dismissed or not taken seriously. It hasn't happened every time, but it's happened often enough that it's discouraging.

"}, "t1_l91rv4r": {"author": "Embarrassed-Wind-87", "authorId": "t2_hjchyw4dc", "collapsed": false, "collapsedReason": null, "collapsedBecauseCrowdControl": null, "collapsedReasonCode": null, "created": 1718653962.0, "depth": 0, "deletedBy": null, "distinguishType": null, "editedAt": null, "gildings": null, "goldCount": 0, "id": "t1_l91rv4r", "isAdmin": false, "isDeleted": false, "isGildable": false, "isLocked": false, "isMod": false, "isOp": false, "isSaved": false, "isStickied": false, "isScoreHidden": false, "next": {"id": "t1_l923of3", "type": "comment"}, "parentId": null, "permalink": "/r/DID/comments/1dfyyq7/crime_victims_did_you_make_a_police_report_pls/l91rv4r/", "prev": {"id": "t1_l91npo0", "type": "comment"}, "postAuthor": null, "postId": "t3_1dfyyq7", "postTitle": null, "score": 2, "sendReplies": true, "subredditId": "t5_2s73v", "voteState": 0, "bodyMD": "Didn\u2019t want to. Had no choice. Aweful experience.", "body": "

Didn\u2019t want to. Had no choice. Aweful experience.

"}, "t1_l923of3": {"author": "stormytheneet", "authorId": "t2_3i11wbeg", "collapsed": false, "collapsedReason": null, "collapsedBecauseCrowdControl": null, "collapsedReasonCode": null, "created": 1718657905.0, "depth": 0, "deletedBy": null, "distinguishType": null, "editedAt": null, "gildings": null, "goldCount": 0, "id": "t1_l923of3", "isAdmin": false, "isDeleted": false, "isGildable": false, "isLocked": false, "isMod": false, "isOp": false, "isSaved": false, "isStickied": false, "isScoreHidden": false, "next": {"id": "t1_l92vlf8", "type": "comment"}, "parentId": null, "permalink": "/r/DID/comments/1dfyyq7/crime_victims_did_you_make_a_police_report_pls/l923of3/", "prev": {"id": "t1_l91rv4r", "type": "comment"}, "postAuthor": null, "postId": "t3_1dfyyq7", "postTitle": null, "score": 2, "sendReplies": true, "subredditId": "t5_2s73v", "voteState": 0, "bodyMD": "When we were 12, my girlfriend\u2019s stepmom made a report on the abuse that was taking place in my family (I would leave long messages to my gf about things that happened to me at the time). CPS did nothing, but the police put my abuser (older brother) onto parole. Apparently one of my alters made it look like my brother did even worse stuff, but I can\u2019t say for sure because I don\u2019t have memories of it. Basically my brother got put into juvie since he broke parole, but my parents got away free even though they\u2019re the ones that allowed for the abuse to take place (and even defended my brother for it). Police is a 50/50 shot for me, but they at least did something to make me feel a little more safe. Would I report the other abusers in my life? Probably not, since we don\u2019t have ample evidence that what they did was real. It\u2019s frustrating and sickening to think about, but all I care about is just moving on and hoping for some type of karma to fall on them. -Caden", "body": "

When we were 12, my girlfriend\u2019s stepmom made a report on the abuse that was taking place in my family (I would leave long messages to my gf about things that happened to me at the time). CPS did nothing, but the police put my abuser (older brother) onto parole. Apparently one of my alters made it look like my brother did even worse stuff, but I can\u2019t say for sure because I don\u2019t have memories of it. Basically my brother got put into juvie since he broke parole, but my parents got away free even though they\u2019re the ones that allowed for the abuse to take place (and even defended my brother for it). Police is a 50/50 shot for me, but they at least did something to make me feel a little more safe. Would I report the other abusers in my life? Probably not, since we don\u2019t have ample evidence that what they did was real. It\u2019s frustrating and sickening to think about, but all I care about is just moving on and hoping for some type of karma to fall on them. -Caden

"}, "t1_l92vlf8": {"author": "charliebug58", "authorId": "t2_m6qw22g4r", "collapsed": false, "collapsedReason": null, "collapsedBecauseCrowdControl": null, "collapsedReasonCode": null, "created": 1718668403.0, "depth": 0, "deletedBy": null, "distinguishType": null, "editedAt": null, "gildings": null, "goldCount": 0, "id": "t1_l92vlf8", "isAdmin": false, "isDeleted": false, "isGildable": false, "isLocked": false, "isMod": false, "isOp": false, "isSaved": false, "isStickied": false, "isScoreHidden": false, "next": {"id": "t1_l94mde5", "type": "comment"}, "parentId": null, "permalink": "/r/DID/comments/1dfyyq7/crime_victims_did_you_make_a_police_report_pls/l92vlf8/", "prev": {"id": "t1_l923of3", "type": "comment"}, "postAuthor": null, "postId": "t3_1dfyyq7", "postTitle": null, "score": 2, "sendReplies": true, "subredditId": "t5_2s73v", "voteState": 0, "bodyMD": "I didn't because I was so young and didn't know what to do I had no proof and no idea who they were in the middle of no where (quite litterally) so I just pretended it didn't happen for the next 5byears before finally telling someone. I regret not going to the police now, more than 10 years later, because I like to hope there would have been some better support I could have accessed than I can now. Everything since that one just didn't feel as bad because nothing compares to that first one so I went no where with those ones either", "body": "

I didn't because I was so young and didn't know what to do I had no proof and no idea who they were in the middle of no where (quite litterally) so I just pretended it didn't happen for the next 5byears before finally telling someone. I regret not going to the police now, more than 10 years later, because I like to hope there would have been some better support I could have accessed than I can now. Everything since that one just didn't feel as bad because nothing compares to that first one so I went no where with those ones either

"}, "t1_l94mde5": {"author": "Cathedralstationsys", "authorId": "t2_typri1e7k", "collapsed": false, "collapsedReason": null, "collapsedBecauseCrowdControl": null, "collapsedReasonCode": null, "created": 1718700599.0, "depth": 0, "deletedBy": null, "distinguishType": null, "editedAt": null, "gildings": null, "goldCount": 0, "id": "t1_l94mde5", "isAdmin": false, "isDeleted": false, "isGildable": false, "isLocked": false, "isMod": false, "isOp": false, "isSaved": false, "isStickied": false, "isScoreHidden": false, "next": {"id": "t1_l8nend7", "type": "comment"}, "parentId": null, "permalink": "/r/DID/comments/1dfyyq7/crime_victims_did_you_make_a_police_report_pls/l94mde5/", "prev": {"id": "t1_l92vlf8", "type": "comment"}, "postAuthor": null, "postId": "t3_1dfyyq7", "postTitle": null, "score": 2, "sendReplies": true, "subredditId": "t5_2s73v", "voteState": 0, "bodyMD": "We tried making a police report but we're pretty much disbelieved and told we were f*** nuts. We don't bother with cops now.\n\nHQ", "body": "

We tried making a police report but we're pretty much disbelieved and told we were f*** nuts. We don't bother with cops now.

\n\n

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Nope tho I do know one of them did eventually get caught and put on a registry which made me feel abit more validated but other then that no one else faced any justice and for the most part no one even believed us so we learned quick there was no point

"}, "t1_l8nry7s": {"author": "eatratshitt", "authorId": "t2_5gfa413kt", "collapsed": false, "collapsedReason": null, "collapsedBecauseCrowdControl": null, "collapsedReasonCode": null, "created": 1718410385.0, "depth": 0, "deletedBy": null, "distinguishType": null, "editedAt": null, "gildings": null, "goldCount": 0, "id": "t1_l8nry7s", "isAdmin": false, "isDeleted": false, "isGildable": false, "isLocked": false, "isMod": false, "isOp": false, "isSaved": false, "isStickied": false, "isScoreHidden": false, "next": {"id": "t1_l8nx46u", "type": "comment"}, "parentId": null, "permalink": "/r/DID/comments/1dfyyq7/crime_victims_did_you_make_a_police_report_pls/l8nry7s/", "prev": {"id": "t1_l8nend7", "type": "comment"}, "postAuthor": null, "postId": "t3_1dfyyq7", "postTitle": null, "score": 1, "sendReplies": true, "subredditId": "t5_2s73v", "voteState": 0, "bodyMD": "TW FOR SA\nMost of what was done to me wouldn\u2019t even be considered by police due to it being an SA in a relationship. The only thing that I could report (although it would get me nowhere due to lack of evidence) was a rape attempt but I was 14 and drinking with the guy who did it so there was no way I wouldn\u2019t get totally victim blamed and also get in trouble for the alcohol. It\u2019s been 6 years since that happened and honestly I accepted that I won\u2019t get justice and transferred all that rage onto patriarchy", "body": "

TW FOR SA\nMost of what was done to me wouldn\u2019t even be considered by police due to it being an SA in a relationship. The only thing that I could report (although it would get me nowhere due to lack of evidence) was a rape attempt but I was 14 and drinking with the guy who did it so there was no way I wouldn\u2019t get totally victim blamed and also get in trouble for the alcohol. It\u2019s been 6 years since that happened and honestly I accepted that I won\u2019t get justice and transferred all that rage onto patriarchy

"}, "t1_l8nx46u": {"author": "That3mo0verTh3re", "authorId": "t2_l8zhcw22", "collapsed": false, "collapsedReason": null, "collapsedBecauseCrowdControl": null, "collapsedReasonCode": null, "created": 1718412679.0, "depth": 0, "deletedBy": null, "distinguishType": null, "editedAt": null, "gildings": null, "goldCount": 0, "id": "t1_l8nx46u", "isAdmin": false, "isDeleted": false, "isGildable": false, "isLocked": false, "isMod": false, "isOp": false, "isSaved": false, "isStickied": false, "isScoreHidden": false, "next": {"id": "t1_l8nyt5o", "type": "comment"}, "parentId": null, "permalink": "/r/DID/comments/1dfyyq7/crime_victims_did_you_make_a_police_report_pls/l8nx46u/", "prev": {"id": "t1_l8nry7s", "type": "comment"}, "postAuthor": null, "postId": "t3_1dfyyq7", "postTitle": null, "score": 1, "sendReplies": true, "subredditId": "t5_2s73v", "voteState": 0, "bodyMD": "Only once, and it was emotionally exhausting for us + didn\u2019t help very much", "body": "

Only once, and it was emotionally exhausting for us + didn\u2019t help very much

"}, "t1_l8nyt5o": {"author": "MissKorty", "authorId": "t2_7gxrommv", "collapsed": false, "collapsedReason": null, "collapsedBecauseCrowdControl": null, "collapsedReasonCode": null, "created": 1718413430.0, "depth": 0, "deletedBy": null, "distinguishType": null, "editedAt": null, "gildings": null, "goldCount": 0, "id": "t1_l8nyt5o", "isAdmin": false, "isDeleted": false, "isGildable": false, "isLocked": false, "isMod": false, "isOp": false, "isSaved": false, "isStickied": false, "isScoreHidden": false, "next": {"id": "t1_l8o0h3e", "type": "comment"}, "parentId": null, "permalink": "/r/DID/comments/1dfyyq7/crime_victims_did_you_make_a_police_report_pls/l8nyt5o/", "prev": {"id": "t1_l8nx46u", "type": "comment"}, "postAuthor": null, "postId": "t3_1dfyyq7", "postTitle": null, "score": 1, "sendReplies": true, "subredditId": "t5_2s73v", "voteState": 0, "bodyMD": "I\u2019ve never filed any reports. I\u2019ve considered filing reports later in life but these incidents all happened 10-20+ years ago. I will say if I could go back I would have. Only because I fear for others not knowing what these people have done. I think it would be too late now, and impossible to prove.", "body": "

I\u2019ve never filed any reports. I\u2019ve considered filing reports later in life but these incidents all happened 10-20+ years ago. I will say if I could go back I would have. Only because I fear for others not knowing what these people have done. I think it would be too late now, and impossible to prove.

"}, "t1_l8o0h3e": {"author": "spookymagnet", "authorId": "t2_wrijr62bk", "collapsed": false, "collapsedReason": null, "collapsedBecauseCrowdControl": null, "collapsedReasonCode": null, "created": 1718414158.0, "depth": 0, "deletedBy": null, "distinguishType": null, "editedAt": null, "gildings": null, "goldCount": 0, "id": "t1_l8o0h3e", "isAdmin": false, "isDeleted": false, "isGildable": false, "isLocked": false, "isMod": false, "isOp": false, "isSaved": false, "isStickied": false, "isScoreHidden": false, "next": {"id": "t1_l8o69n9", "type": "comment"}, "parentId": null, "permalink": "/r/DID/comments/1dfyyq7/crime_victims_did_you_make_a_police_report_pls/l8o0h3e/", "prev": {"id": "t1_l8nyt5o", "type": "comment"}, "postAuthor": null, "postId": "t3_1dfyyq7", "postTitle": null, "score": 1, "sendReplies": true, "subredditId": "t5_2s73v", "voteState": 0, "bodyMD": "my therapist actually reported it but it was already beyond the statute of limitations so nothing actually came of it. he would get out of any charges anyway since he\u2019s a lawyer, he managed to get out of an attempted murder charge (not related to me). its still on his record but he didn\u2019t even serve one year before being released.", "body": "

my therapist actually reported it but it was already beyond the statute of limitations so nothing actually came of it. he would get out of any charges anyway since he\u2019s a lawyer, he managed to get out of an attempted murder charge (not related to me). its still on his record but he didn\u2019t even serve one year before being released.

"}, "t1_l8o69n9": {"author": "Puzzleheaded_Fox7279", "authorId": "t2_t920fyh3", "collapsed": false, "collapsedReason": null, "collapsedBecauseCrowdControl": null, "collapsedReasonCode": null, "created": 1718416745.0, "depth": 0, "deletedBy": null, "distinguishType": null, "editedAt": null, "gildings": null, "goldCount": 0, "id": "t1_l8o69n9", "isAdmin": false, "isDeleted": false, "isGildable": false, "isLocked": false, "isMod": false, "isOp": false, "isSaved": false, "isStickied": false, "isScoreHidden": false, "next": {"id": "t1_l8o6fr5", "type": "comment"}, "parentId": null, "permalink": "/r/DID/comments/1dfyyq7/crime_victims_did_you_make_a_police_report_pls/l8o69n9/", "prev": {"id": "t1_l8o0h3e", "type": "comment"}, "postAuthor": null, "postId": "t3_1dfyyq7", "postTitle": null, "score": 1, "sendReplies": true, "subredditId": "t5_2s73v", "voteState": 0, "bodyMD": "I did in one case, but not all of them.\n\nThe cases I didn't it was either because I did not know I could do one (majority), or the possibility going to the cops seemed to have worse short and medium term impacts on our life than the crime itself. Honestly, except the one I know would be a worse choice, I am still angry with myself about not reporting the ones I ould have reported, but just lacked access and knowledge to do so. At that time, I was really afraid that once police took a look on my body, there would be \"no proof\" and I would just end up worse. But I was wrong. In my country the process is complex and even high cortisol on the blood could be used in my favor.\n\nThe lack of knowledge forced me to watch new victims one after the other. The criminals were violent and went after multiple people. I felt more hopeless watching the others than because of the fact that we, ourselves, were victims too.\n\nThe anger and guilt led to case we made a report. It was a \"minor crime\" at first, but the police changed it to a \"moderate\" level after new reports made by others to support me. At first, I was really afraid of the process, but apparently if you live in a city full of DV cases, moderate to minor levels keep being pushed to the back of the list untill they expire. I will never go to court, it seems. But this time around, any next victim have all my documents there, up to use to back up her case.\n\nTherefore, we don't judge those who stay silent. You need to know the law, need to know what can be used in your favor, what counts of proof... There is just too much to think about and sometimes our health is above any societal morality.", "body": "

I did in one case, but not all of them.

\n\n

The cases I didn't it was either because I did not know I could do one (majority), or the possibility going to the cops seemed to have worse short and medium term impacts on our life than the crime itself. Honestly, except the one I know would be a worse choice, I am still angry with myself about not reporting the ones I ould have reported, but just lacked access and knowledge to do so. At that time, I was really afraid that once police took a look on my body, there would be "no proof" and I would just end up worse. But I was wrong. In my country the process is complex and even high cortisol on the blood could be used in my favor.

\n\n

The lack of knowledge forced me to watch new victims one after the other. The criminals were violent and went after multiple people. I felt more hopeless watching the others than because of the fact that we, ourselves, were victims too.

\n\n

The anger and guilt led to case we made a report. It was a "minor crime" at first, but the police changed it to a "moderate" level after new reports made by others to support me. At first, I was really afraid of the process, but apparently if you live in a city full of DV cases, moderate to minor levels keep being pushed to the back of the list untill they expire. I will never go to court, it seems. But this time around, any next victim have all my documents there, up to use to back up her case.

\n\n

Therefore, we don't judge those who stay silent. You need to know the law, need to know what can be used in your favor, what counts of proof... There is just too much to think about and sometimes our health is above any societal morality.

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The dipshits kept asking me the same questions over and over again to try and make me change my story and when I got details confused because of how many times I had to retell it they accused me of lying. Lazy, incompetent, failures of humanity that give WAY too much attitude considering how fucking useless they are. I hated cops long before it was cool.

"}, "t1_l8o96fv": {"author": "justintonationslut", "authorId": "t2_hkti3u3j", "collapsed": false, "collapsedReason": null, "collapsedBecauseCrowdControl": null, "collapsedReasonCode": null, "created": 1718418066.0, "depth": 0, "deletedBy": null, "distinguishType": null, "editedAt": null, "gildings": null, "goldCount": 0, "id": "t1_l8o96fv", "isAdmin": false, "isDeleted": false, "isGildable": false, "isLocked": false, "isMod": false, "isOp": false, "isSaved": false, "isStickied": false, "isScoreHidden": false, "next": {"id": "t1_l8oej60", "type": "comment"}, "parentId": null, "permalink": "/r/DID/comments/1dfyyq7/crime_victims_did_you_make_a_police_report_pls/l8o96fv/", "prev": {"id": "t1_l8o6fr5", "type": "comment"}, "postAuthor": null, "postId": "t3_1dfyyq7", "postTitle": null, "score": 1, "sendReplies": true, "subredditId": "t5_2s73v", "voteState": 0, "bodyMD": "I didn\u2019t. Too young to drive, couldn\u2019t do it without getting parents involved", "body": "

I didn\u2019t. Too young to drive, couldn\u2019t do it without getting parents involved

"}, "t1_l8oej60": {"author": "Motor-Customer-8698", "authorId": "t2_qe5gnv00", "collapsed": false, "collapsedReason": null, "collapsedBecauseCrowdControl": null, "collapsedReasonCode": null, "created": 1718420569.0, "depth": 0, "deletedBy": null, "distinguishType": null, "editedAt": null, "gildings": null, "goldCount": 0, "id": "t1_l8oej60", "isAdmin": false, "isDeleted": false, "isGildable": false, "isLocked": false, "isMod": false, "isOp": false, "isSaved": false, "isStickied": false, "isScoreHidden": false, "next": {"id": "t1_l8oeuut", "type": "comment"}, "parentId": null, "permalink": "/r/DID/comments/1dfyyq7/crime_victims_did_you_make_a_police_report_pls/l8oej60/", "prev": {"id": "t1_l8o96fv", "type": "comment"}, "postAuthor": null, "postId": "t3_1dfyyq7", "postTitle": null, "score": 1, "sendReplies": true, "subredditId": "t5_2s73v", "voteState": 0, "bodyMD": "I told my therapist, she reported it and the cops came to me. I told my story. since we were close in age and I guess bc i said I didn\u2019t want to press charges, he told me it was just child\u2019s play (it definitely was not). The social worker sitting there who I imagine was there for support was of no help and just looked at me and said I\u2019m sorry. I was 16 and just wanted it all behind me. After 9 years of hiding everything. The last thing I wanted was for even more people to know what had happened. Had I known about the therapists duty to report, I wouldn\u2019t have ever bothered to tell her either. Maybe I would have felt differently if the cop actually cared, but I could tell he didn\u2019t believe a thing I said.", "body": "

I told my therapist, she reported it and the cops came to me. I told my story. since we were close in age and I guess bc i said I didn\u2019t want to press charges, he told me it was just child\u2019s play (it definitely was not). The social worker sitting there who I imagine was there for support was of no help and just looked at me and said I\u2019m sorry. I was 16 and just wanted it all behind me. After 9 years of hiding everything. The last thing I wanted was for even more people to know what had happened. Had I known about the therapists duty to report, I wouldn\u2019t have ever bothered to tell her either. Maybe I would have felt differently if the cop actually cared, but I could tell he didn\u2019t believe a thing I said.

"}, "t1_l8oeuut": {"author": "Advanced-Figure2072", "authorId": "t2_ozgwnualn", "collapsed": false, "collapsedReason": null, "collapsedBecauseCrowdControl": null, "collapsedReasonCode": null, "created": 1718420730.0, "depth": 0, "deletedBy": null, "distinguishType": null, "editedAt": null, "gildings": null, "goldCount": 0, "id": "t1_l8oeuut", "isAdmin": false, "isDeleted": false, "isGildable": false, "isLocked": false, "isMod": false, "isOp": false, "isSaved": false, "isStickied": false, "isScoreHidden": false, "next": {"id": "t1_l8oft35", "type": "comment"}, "parentId": null, "permalink": "/r/DID/comments/1dfyyq7/crime_victims_did_you_make_a_police_report_pls/l8oeuut/", "prev": {"id": "t1_l8oej60", "type": "comment"}, "postAuthor": null, "postId": "t3_1dfyyq7", "postTitle": null, "score": 1, "sendReplies": true, "subredditId": "t5_2s73v", "voteState": 0, "bodyMD": "Has no choice. Police found me", "body": "

Has no choice. Police found me

"}, "t1_l8oft35": {"author": "DiDGaming", "authorId": "t2_l89nb589s", "collapsed": false, "collapsedReason": null, "collapsedBecauseCrowdControl": null, "collapsedReasonCode": null, "created": 1718421215.0, "depth": 0, "deletedBy": null, "distinguishType": null, "editedAt": null, "gildings": null, "goldCount": 0, "id": "t1_l8oft35", "isAdmin": false, "isDeleted": false, "isGildable": false, "isLocked": false, "isMod": false, "isOp": false, "isSaved": false, "isStickied": false, "isScoreHidden": false, "next": {"id": "t1_l8ooaza", "type": "comment"}, "parentId": null, "permalink": "/r/DID/comments/1dfyyq7/crime_victims_did_you_make_a_police_report_pls/l8oft35/", "prev": {"id": "t1_l8oeuut", "type": "comment"}, "postAuthor": null, "postId": "t3_1dfyyq7", "postTitle": null, "score": 1, "sendReplies": true, "subredditId": "t5_2s73v", "voteState": 0, "bodyMD": "Last split had about 500 other victims as well, so didn\u2019t have to do much other than ride the \u201coffended\u201d-train through all proceedings and enjoy our new buddy that emerged:) I\u2019m always a huge advocate of making noice and smack people over their head with a fluffy karma-baseball bat if possible so steam on and report away! Maybe not necessary to mention to the cops that you\u2019re DID but let who ever is your adult fronter handle it if you\u2019re up for it :)", "body": "

Last split had about 500 other victims as well, so didn\u2019t have to do much other than ride the \u201coffended\u201d-train through all proceedings and enjoy our new buddy that emerged:) I\u2019m always a huge advocate of making noice and smack people over their head with a fluffy karma-baseball bat if possible so steam on and report away! Maybe not necessary to mention to the cops that you\u2019re DID but let who ever is your adult fronter handle it if you\u2019re up for it :)

"}, "t1_l8ooaza": {"author": "Suspicious_Yak_2702", "authorId": "t2_t2pyocf9t", "collapsed": false, "collapsedReason": null, "collapsedBecauseCrowdControl": null, "collapsedReasonCode": null, "created": 1718425977.0, "depth": 0, "deletedBy": null, "distinguishType": null, "editedAt": null, "gildings": null, "goldCount": 0, "id": "t1_l8ooaza", "isAdmin": false, "isDeleted": false, "isGildable": false, "isLocked": false, "isMod": false, "isOp": false, "isSaved": false, "isStickied": false, "isScoreHidden": false, "next": {"id": "t1_l8oot9z", "type": "comment"}, "parentId": null, "permalink": "/r/DID/comments/1dfyyq7/crime_victims_did_you_make_a_police_report_pls/l8ooaza/", "prev": {"id": "t1_l8oft35", "type": "comment"}, "postAuthor": null, "postId": "t3_1dfyyq7", "postTitle": null, "score": 1, "sendReplies": true, "subredditId": "t5_2s73v", "voteState": 0, "bodyMD": "I didn\u2019t while it was happening IN the \u201crelationship\u201d cos I always felt bad??? THE FUCK?\n\nBut, like you, it turned me into a better person. Not only do I respect and love myself more than ever, I know nobody is EVER worth me lowering/changing myself. Plus, I know EXACTLY how I don\u2019t EVER want to look or sound, to pay attention the first time somebody shows you who they are and to NEVER feel bad or apologize for being the victim. Especially under the circumstances we\u2019re talking about.\n\nFive years later, he\u2019s still breaking into my house, hacking my phone and photoshopping/posting photos of me, threatening me, etc. \n\nBut I\u2019ve never been happier, smarter or stronger!\n\n**free advice, from personal experience:\nStay away from white men!! Hahaha", "body": "

I didn\u2019t while it was happening IN the \u201crelationship\u201d cos I always felt bad??? THE FUCK?

\n\n

But, like you, it turned me into a better person. Not only do I respect and love myself more than ever, I know nobody is EVER worth me lowering/changing myself. Plus, I know EXACTLY how I don\u2019t EVER want to look or sound, to pay attention the first time somebody shows you who they are and to NEVER feel bad or apologize for being the victim. Especially under the circumstances we\u2019re talking about.

\n\n

Five years later, he\u2019s still breaking into my house, hacking my phone and photoshopping/posting photos of me, threatening me, etc.

\n\n

But I\u2019ve never been happier, smarter or stronger!

\n\n

**free advice, from personal experience:\nStay away from white men!! Hahaha

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You\u2019re stronger than you think. \nYou\u2019re worth more than anyone will ever give you credit for.

\n\n

Don\u2019t ever hesitate to back and build yourself up!\nBe your own biggest fan. Shamelessly!

"}, "t1_l8opomj": {"author": "xxmrtoxicxx", "authorId": "t2_43whi8nqs", "collapsed": false, "collapsedReason": null, "collapsedBecauseCrowdControl": null, "collapsedReasonCode": null, "created": 1718426835.0, "depth": 0, "deletedBy": null, "distinguishType": null, "editedAt": null, "gildings": null, "goldCount": 0, "id": "t1_l8opomj", "isAdmin": false, "isDeleted": false, "isGildable": false, "isLocked": false, "isMod": false, "isOp": false, "isSaved": false, "isStickied": false, "isScoreHidden": false, "next": {"id": "t1_l8opvds", "type": "comment"}, "parentId": null, "permalink": "/r/DID/comments/1dfyyq7/crime_victims_did_you_make_a_police_report_pls/l8opomj/", "prev": {"id": "t1_l8oot9z", "type": "comment"}, "postAuthor": null, "postId": "t3_1dfyyq7", "postTitle": null, "score": 1, "sendReplies": true, "subredditId": "t5_2s73v", "voteState": 0, "bodyMD": "I've made so many but no one takes it serious.\nAt this point we do our own work.", "body": "

I've made so many but no one takes it serious.\nAt this point we do our own work.

"}, "t1_l8opvds": {"author": "ExpensivePurchase664", "authorId": "t2_ykhby1usr", "collapsed": false, "collapsedReason": null, "collapsedBecauseCrowdControl": null, "collapsedReasonCode": null, "created": 1718426954.0, "depth": 0, "deletedBy": null, "distinguishType": null, "editedAt": null, "gildings": null, "goldCount": 0, "id": "t1_l8opvds", "isAdmin": false, "isDeleted": false, "isGildable": false, "isLocked": false, "isMod": false, "isOp": false, "isSaved": false, "isStickied": false, "isScoreHidden": false, "next": {"id": "t1_l8ov97e", "type": "comment"}, "parentId": null, "permalink": "/r/DID/comments/1dfyyq7/crime_victims_did_you_make_a_police_report_pls/l8opvds/", "prev": {"id": "t1_l8opomj", "type": "comment"}, "postAuthor": null, "postId": "t3_1dfyyq7", "postTitle": null, "score": 1, "sendReplies": true, "subredditId": "t5_2s73v", "voteState": 0, "bodyMD": "Not directly to police, but yes I did report. Both investigations ended in me not being believed.\u00a0", "body": "

Not directly to police, but yes I did report. Both investigations ended in me not being believed.\u00a0

"}, "t1_l8ov97e": {"author": "FunkiBoye947", "authorId": "t2_e5avnemf", "collapsed": false, "collapsedReason": null, "collapsedBecauseCrowdControl": null, "collapsedReasonCode": null, "created": 1718430435.0, "depth": 0, "deletedBy": null, "distinguishType": null, "editedAt": null, "gildings": null, "goldCount": 0, "id": "t1_l8ov97e", "isAdmin": false, "isDeleted": false, "isGildable": false, "isLocked": false, "isMod": false, "isOp": false, "isSaved": false, "isStickied": false, "isScoreHidden": false, "next": {"id": "t1_l8p31us", "type": "comment"}, "parentId": null, "permalink": "/r/DID/comments/1dfyyq7/crime_victims_did_you_make_a_police_report_pls/l8ov97e/", "prev": {"id": "t1_l8opvds", "type": "comment"}, "postAuthor": null, "postId": "t3_1dfyyq7", "postTitle": null, "score": 1, "sendReplies": true, "subredditId": "t5_2s73v", "voteState": 0, "bodyMD": "Went to the police and was told I was \u201casking for it\u201d and never trusted cops again", "body": "

Went to the police and was told I was \u201casking for it\u201d and never trusted cops again

"}, "t1_l8p31us": {"author": "Sharni03", "authorId": "t2_6ny3rj1x", "collapsed": false, "collapsedReason": null, "collapsedBecauseCrowdControl": null, "collapsedReasonCode": null, "created": 1718435860.0, "depth": 0, "deletedBy": null, "distinguishType": null, "editedAt": null, "gildings": null, "goldCount": 0, "id": "t1_l8p31us", "isAdmin": false, "isDeleted": false, "isGildable": false, "isLocked": false, "isMod": false, "isOp": false, "isSaved": false, "isStickied": false, "isScoreHidden": false, "next": {"id": "t1_l8pabav", "type": "comment"}, "parentId": null, "permalink": "/r/DID/comments/1dfyyq7/crime_victims_did_you_make_a_police_report_pls/l8p31us/", "prev": {"id": "t1_l8ov97e", "type": "comment"}, "postAuthor": null, "postId": "t3_1dfyyq7", "postTitle": null, "score": 1, "sendReplies": true, "subredditId": "t5_2s73v", "voteState": 0, "bodyMD": "in my country and state there's something called Victims of Crime. They're the only people who know about what's happened as police in this country are well documented to have high rates of abusers in their ranks and have a terrible track record for actual justice in regards to well documented violent attacks. My recovered memories of childhood abuse are very unlikely to get anywhere if a woman with multiple eye-witnesses and life changing injuries from an assault has her perpetrators given 3 months probation in the same courts. \n\nIt's horrible but seeking justice for abuse is very difficult in the current system, pretty much worldwide. If there are any organisations or other govt services available for victims of crime then I would recommend looking into them. As for reporting to police I think it's a decision only you can make, weighing the likely pros and cons, the possibility of retraumatisation, and your current stability and support system. Whatever you decide I wish you strength and luck in seeking justice \ud83d\udc9b\ud83d\udcaa\ud83c\udffd", "body": "

in my country and state there's something called Victims of Crime. They're the only people who know about what's happened as police in this country are well documented to have high rates of abusers in their ranks and have a terrible track record for actual justice in regards to well documented violent attacks. My recovered memories of childhood abuse are very unlikely to get anywhere if a woman with multiple eye-witnesses and life changing injuries from an assault has her perpetrators given 3 months probation in the same courts.

\n\n

It's horrible but seeking justice for abuse is very difficult in the current system, pretty much worldwide. If there are any organisations or other govt services available for victims of crime then I would recommend looking into them. As for reporting to police I think it's a decision only you can make, weighing the likely pros and cons, the possibility of retraumatisation, and your current stability and support system. Whatever you decide I wish you strength and luck in seeking justice \ud83d\udc9b\ud83d\udcaa\ud83c\udffd

"}, "t1_l8pabav": {"author": "Sick_Nuggets_69", "authorId": "t2_rezhu6ko0", "collapsed": false, "collapsedReason": null, "collapsedBecauseCrowdControl": null, "collapsedReasonCode": null, "created": 1718441361.0, "depth": 0, "deletedBy": null, "distinguishType": null, "editedAt": null, "gildings": null, "goldCount": 0, "id": "t1_l8pabav", "isAdmin": false, "isDeleted": false, "isGildable": false, "isLocked": false, "isMod": false, "isOp": false, "isSaved": false, "isStickied": false, "isScoreHidden": false, "next": {"id": "t1_l8pbh1o", "type": "comment"}, "parentId": null, "permalink": "/r/DID/comments/1dfyyq7/crime_victims_did_you_make_a_police_report_pls/l8pabav/", "prev": {"id": "t1_l8p31us", "type": "comment"}, "postAuthor": null, "postId": "t3_1dfyyq7", "postTitle": null, "score": 1, "sendReplies": true, "subredditId": "t5_2s73v", "voteState": 0, "bodyMD": "Every time cops have been involved in anything that\u2019s happened to us it hasn\u2019t gone well. We\u2019ve luckily not been directly physically harmed by cops (not to downplay any mental effects they\u2019ve caused) or anything like that but they\u2019ve never been exactly helpful so in the future if anything happen I don\u2019t know if I would report stuff unless it was absolutely necessary.\n\nI hope yall are alright. \ud83e\udec2 Whether you report or not", "body": "

Every time cops have been involved in anything that\u2019s happened to us it hasn\u2019t gone well. We\u2019ve luckily not been directly physically harmed by cops (not to downplay any mental effects they\u2019ve caused) or anything like that but they\u2019ve never been exactly helpful so in the future if anything happen I don\u2019t know if I would report stuff unless it was absolutely necessary.

\n\n

I hope yall are alright. \ud83e\udec2 Whether you report or not

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For SA: no \nFor stalking: both yes and no

"}, "t1_l8pe687": {"author": "Targeted_CareBear", "authorId": "t2_qwvivxmq3", "collapsed": false, "collapsedReason": null, "collapsedBecauseCrowdControl": null, "collapsedReasonCode": null, "created": 1718444325.0, "depth": 0, "deletedBy": null, "distinguishType": null, "editedAt": null, "gildings": null, "goldCount": 0, "id": "t1_l8pe687", "isAdmin": false, "isDeleted": false, "isGildable": false, "isLocked": false, "isMod": false, "isOp": false, "isSaved": false, "isStickied": false, "isScoreHidden": false, "next": {"id": "t1_l8pipgq", "type": "comment"}, "parentId": null, "permalink": "/r/DID/comments/1dfyyq7/crime_victims_did_you_make_a_police_report_pls/l8pe687/", "prev": {"id": "t1_l8pbh1o", "type": "comment"}, "postAuthor": null, "postId": "t3_1dfyyq7", "postTitle": null, "score": 1, "sendReplies": true, "subredditId": "t5_2s73v", "voteState": 0, "bodyMD": "ALWAYS go with YOUR Gut. Regarding HOW you deal with such.\nGod helps too. \nStay strong. I mean that. Good luck.", "body": "

ALWAYS go with YOUR Gut. Regarding HOW you deal with such.\nGod helps too. \nStay strong. I mean that. Good luck.

"}, "t1_l8pipgq": {"author": "Weald-Abditory", "authorId": "t2_gr0nof9z5", "collapsed": false, "collapsedReason": null, "collapsedBecauseCrowdControl": null, "collapsedReasonCode": null, "created": 1718447951.0, "depth": 0, "deletedBy": null, "distinguishType": null, "editedAt": null, "gildings": null, "goldCount": 0, "id": "t1_l8pipgq", "isAdmin": false, "isDeleted": false, "isGildable": false, "isLocked": false, "isMod": false, "isOp": false, "isSaved": false, "isStickied": false, "isScoreHidden": false, "next": {"id": "t1_l8pls9i", "type": "comment"}, "parentId": null, "permalink": "/r/DID/comments/1dfyyq7/crime_victims_did_you_make_a_police_report_pls/l8pipgq/", "prev": {"id": "t1_l8pe687", "type": "comment"}, "postAuthor": null, "postId": "t3_1dfyyq7", "postTitle": null, "score": 1, "sendReplies": true, "subredditId": "t5_2s73v", "voteState": 0, "bodyMD": "Did. Ended in complete humiliation and victim blaming", "body": "

Did. Ended in complete humiliation and victim blaming

"}, "t1_l8pls9i": {"author": "Obscure_Operator_V", "authorId": "t2_10n8d9n31c", "collapsed": false, "collapsedReason": null, "collapsedBecauseCrowdControl": null, "collapsedReasonCode": null, "created": 1718450011.0, "depth": 0, "deletedBy": null, "distinguishType": null, "editedAt": null, "gildings": null, "goldCount": 0, "id": "t1_l8pls9i", "isAdmin": false, "isDeleted": false, "isGildable": false, "isLocked": false, "isMod": false, "isOp": false, "isSaved": false, "isStickied": false, "isScoreHidden": false, "next": {"id": "t1_l8pn7m3", "type": "comment"}, "parentId": null, "permalink": "/r/DID/comments/1dfyyq7/crime_victims_did_you_make_a_police_report_pls/l8pls9i/", "prev": {"id": "t1_l8pipgq", "type": "comment"}, "postAuthor": null, "postId": "t3_1dfyyq7", "postTitle": null, "score": 1, "sendReplies": true, "subredditId": "t5_2s73v", "voteState": 0, "bodyMD": "We've already filed a huuuuge report with all the video, audio and text recordings, bank accounts info and everything else. We were patient enough to fool the assailant into believing he won, but The Game has just begun. \n\nThe second round is always more fun, no? :)", "body": "

We've already filed a huuuuge report with all the video, audio and text recordings, bank accounts info and everything else. We were patient enough to fool the assailant into believing he won, but The Game has just begun.

\n\n

The second round is always more fun, no? :)

"}, "t1_l8pn7m3": {"author": "[deleted]", "authorId": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsedReason": null, "collapsedBecauseCrowdControl": null, "collapsedReasonCode": null, "created": 1718450888.0, "depth": 0, "deletedBy": null, "distinguishType": null, "editedAt": null, "gildings": null, "goldCount": 0, "id": "t1_l8pn7m3", "isAdmin": false, "isDeleted": false, "isGildable": false, "isLocked": false, "isMod": false, "isOp": false, "isSaved": false, "isStickied": false, "isScoreHidden": false, "next": {"id": "t1_l8pxppu", "type": "comment"}, "parentId": null, "permalink": "/r/DID/comments/1dfyyq7/crime_victims_did_you_make_a_police_report_pls/l8pn7m3/", "prev": {"id": "t1_l8pls9i", "type": "comment"}, "postAuthor": null, "postId": "t3_1dfyyq7", "postTitle": null, "score": 1, "sendReplies": true, "subredditId": "t5_2s73v", "voteState": 0, "bodyMD": "No. The first time everyone around me blamed me or said 'yeah that's life' (violent attack by a friend's friend, literally nothing I did 'wrong'). The second time I did go to the hospital (drink spiked and assaulted) and the hospital refused to do a drug test or exam and just victim blamed me. I developed severe PTSD after that to the point I became a selective mute.\n\nSo no after that I wasn't exactly encouraged to go to the police or in a place where I felt like that would be a supportive or worthwhile thing.", "body": "

No. The first time everyone around me blamed me or said 'yeah that's life' (violent attack by a friend's friend, literally nothing I did 'wrong'). The second time I did go to the hospital (drink spiked and assaulted) and the hospital refused to do a drug test or exam and just victim blamed me. I developed severe PTSD after that to the point I became a selective mute.

\n\n

So no after that I wasn't exactly encouraged to go to the police or in a place where I felt like that would be a supportive or worthwhile thing.

"}, "t1_l8pxppu": {"author": "YellowSnowman66613", "authorId": "t2_9hzsylxc", "collapsed": false, "collapsedReason": null, "collapsedBecauseCrowdControl": null, "collapsedReasonCode": null, "created": 1718456688.0, "depth": 0, "deletedBy": null, "distinguishType": null, "editedAt": null, "gildings": null, "goldCount": 0, "id": "t1_l8pxppu", "isAdmin": false, "isDeleted": false, "isGildable": false, "isLocked": false, "isMod": false, "isOp": false, "isSaved": false, "isStickied": false, "isScoreHidden": false, "next": {"id": "t1_l8pynuv", "type": "comment"}, "parentId": null, "permalink": "/r/DID/comments/1dfyyq7/crime_victims_did_you_make_a_police_report_pls/l8pxppu/", "prev": {"id": "t1_l8pn7m3", "type": "comment"}, "postAuthor": null, "postId": "t3_1dfyyq7", "postTitle": null, "score": 1, "sendReplies": true, "subredditId": "t5_2s73v", "voteState": 0, "bodyMD": "\u201cwe\u2019re too cool to make a police report\u201d\ni work closely with police in the area that the incident happened. didn\u2019t wanna risk coworkers knowing my business, ya dig? that was as an adult tho\n\nas a kid i was forced into making a police report as per the highschool that i went to. to spare the details i was very quiet and skipped majority of the questions they asked because i didn\u2019t want to report it. definitely petty afterwards too towards the teacher but i still have the officers card tucked away in my closet incase i ever wanna make a more formal report. def won\u2019t be anytime soon. trauma is far and gone. can\u2019t do anything now. i really don\u2019t care \ud83e\udd37\u200d\u2642\ufe0f", "body": "

\u201cwe\u2019re too cool to make a police report\u201d\ni work closely with police in the area that the incident happened. didn\u2019t wanna risk coworkers knowing my business, ya dig? that was as an adult tho

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as a kid i was forced into making a police report as per the highschool that i went to. to spare the details i was very quiet and skipped majority of the questions they asked because i didn\u2019t want to report it. definitely petty afterwards too towards the teacher but i still have the officers card tucked away in my closet incase i ever wanna make a more formal report. def won\u2019t be anytime soon. trauma is far and gone. can\u2019t do anything now. i really don\u2019t care \ud83e\udd37\u200d\u2642\ufe0f

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Reading this thread was devastating. Unfortunately I can only add to the bitter voices. I tried. In my country. Just before the statute of limitations ran out.

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It even went to court. And the stupid judge sent me to two (!) "specialists", one a psychiatrist who was rude as hell and then refused to get my medical records because I had confronted her (politely!). Then to a psychologist who looked up my official DID diagnosis on Wikipedia and then quoted Wikipedia in her report about me (which said that people with DID were easily influenced) and said I was probably manipulated into believing these things had happened.

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Also my relatives all sided with my abusers. (Except for my mom, which I am incredibly grateful for!)

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It's been 8 years since I walked away from that mess and I'm still bitter about it.

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Yes, it\u2019s still an open investigation. But the cops, detectives and DA did treat me with complete respect and compassion. We were trafficked and badly abused for years, but do not have much in the way of physical evidence. The detectives told me that my (albeit very strong and filled with specific details) testimony would be enough to put them all away even if no physical evidence was presented in court. One of my abusers is already in jail, so that likely helped my case of being believed and taken seriously.

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Also, check the laws in your states, they do change. My abuse happened over 20 years ago and I was still able to report and have the case taken seriously. It\u2019s been really challenging, going to the police station and giving DNA for them to run against evidence is not an easy experience. But so far for us, it feels worth it to fight back regardless of the outcome.

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Oh yeah, we've made police reports about stuff. One didn't go anywhere at all (maybe because we MIGHT have accidentally misidentified the perp in their little "images of" test bc.... Hi, amnesia and the crime took like 3 seconds to be committed against us, and even though the guy was actually known to police and they identified him themselves, I guess he just wasn't charged for it....

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The other time they wouldn't even take a damn report, actually several times, and the like biggest one caused them to come to my house and victim blame me and say I could've been charged with (life damaging crime) for going along with the ACTUAL criminal's requests/threats to me and himself if I didn't.

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Acab, fellows. They don't care about real crime but if you have a single joint on you, cuffed up.

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I talked to the school but they brushed me off and I lost motivation

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I tried\u2026 they told me i could report it but it wouldn\u2019t do anything.

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I didn\u2019t, I told no one, I lied to the teachers when someone else reported it, I was terrified I would get in trouble because he always said I would, I wish I would have told someone, even just to prevent others from getting hurt.

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nope, no one would believe me and its past the sol anyways

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I had a ex boyfriend with DID he had about 8 alters and he strangled me twice and I didn't call the cops or make a report on him. He has also pointed spears and knives at me. Two different alters tried to unalive me and they both admitted later. He also abused my dog. I'm glad I finally left him, I stayed because I wanted to help him but the constant betrayals and abuses was too much. He became homeless after but I was finally free and safe from them.

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I\u2019m really sorry you experienced that\u00a0

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I want justice but i feel like it's so heavy to do on my own. Here in my country these types of criminals are usually not given sentences.", "content": "

As i ponder if i should report the latest crime i endured (because i just realised it made me, a functional me who i loved and who was loved, split into five new ones) [ edit this happened in -22 ]

\n\n

I am curious to know how many of us reported their experiences to the police, and how many didn't

\n\n

Last time i did it was a very painful and humiliating experience. I want justice but i feel like it's so heavy to do on my own. Here in my country these types of criminals are usually not given sentences.

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Crime victims - Did you make a police report? Pls comment even if you didn't

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2024-06-14 19:23:12

Crime victims - Did you make a police report? Pls comment even if you didn't

As i ponder if i should report the latest crime i endured (because i just realised it made me, a functional me who i loved and who was loved, split into five new ones) [ edit this happened in -22 ]

I am curious to know how many of us reported their experiences to the police, and how many didn't

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