The responsibilities of being a trans "elder"

I'm not even actually 30 yet. But I've already had some experiences with younger trans people, where I realized that they're seeing me as an elder, and a rock to hold onto.

I play an online game called Dead by Daylight. I like it bc first off, I'm a horror junkie. And second, it doesn't have built-in comms due to the nature of the game, so I don't have to deal with voice dysphoria. The community is also full of queer folks and you can put basically every queer flag on your characters' belts. It is a very toxic community but I've gotten used to it bc I've been playing for a couple thousand hours.

All that context aside: a while back, a younger player noticed my gay mens flag + trans flag combo. He reached out to me and asked me to play via discord comms, then asked how I knew I was a gay trans man, etc. Then he told me he thinks he's a gay trans man too but still wasn't sure. We played several times over the span of a few months, but I brushed him off a few times and he stopped asking to play. I'm honestly mostly a loner and need my personal time, plus I've been very overwhelmed and stuck in my own head lately.

I feel really bad about it bc I know he was definitely affected by me being distant. We played together again for the first time in a while last night, and I could tell he's not doing that great. He is clearly depressed. He seemed to be hesitant to ask me anything beyond a surface level of how I'm doing. I'm wondering if he has more questions about being trans, but is worried that I would be annoyed if he asked. I also know he's living with his grandmother and has been struggling with employment, so he's probably getting transphobia from family (if he's even out to her), and is very likely getting transphobia, homophobia, etc from work or potential employers.

I feel so responsible for this kid. Which sucks, bc I am barely able to handle myself and I constantly dissociate. I'm gonna try my best to not go radio silent on him again tho. Bc of the current state of the US, I think him having an open connection to another trans man is the most important thing rn.

It's just nerve wracking feeling like you're responsible for someone else, when you can't hardly take care of yourself.