single folks in VHCOL, what is your monthly spend?

I'm in NYC and I pay $2100 for a one bedroom uptown. I pinched and squeezed and managed $4000 monthly spend for a while, but now I'm going to $5000-6000, and I can feel the lifestyle creep. I just passed 360k net worth. I'm 35. I grew up poor and have no family support. I was actually a homeless drug addict in my early 20s so I feel fucking rich. I know I'm not, but I'm struggling with the concept of letting me treat myself and if it's safe to do it now. I make 180k with a bonus