Dating broke men

I uncharastically had a boyfriend last valentines day. (last year) I've never celebrated Vals coz I am majorly always single and also because I don't expect my person to wait until Vals to gift me.

I'm naturally a gifter. Gifting heals a part of me. If my friend mentioned something that they like and I come across it, I will get it for them. I buy my friends- both male and female- shoes, jewelry, watches, clothes, books, and small small affordable accesories.

I had been with this bro for about four months, probably my longest adult relationship. Relationships are work, you guys. And as a Murima babe who is constantly fixated about making money, I find it difficult to juggle between money and love. I can't be the only one?

Our relationship had just recently transitioned to long-distance and bro had been going MIA for hours on end. Mind you, I had given bro an iPhone. I had upgraded my phone months prior and not sold the other one that I owned. So I gave him it to him even though I had just found a prospective buyer. This was after he went drinking and lost his phone.

I had also constantly been buying him shoes, t-shirts, jeans and jackets. He stayed at my place almost all the time coz apparently he used to live with his friends so when we met he just moved in.

Anyways, I finally got hold of bro on Feb 13th and we had a good talk. He just went on and on about how he was broke and wasn't finding something to do. He had a budding career that he was not doing anything about in terms of job seeking and stuff. So I would randomly send him money as well. Even once borrowed 3k urgently to send to him coz I had just relocated and spent my money settling here.

Feb 14th, I woke up at the crack of dawn while the birds were still chirping- lol, just reminding myself how we did compositions. I sent bro a long ass romantic message and got to work. I had already organized with my shoe plug to deliver two pairs to him. I gave her his number and location and went about my hectic day.

I got online later to find that bro grey ticked me. Long story short, the rider was able to get ahold of him after about 8 days coz he was constantly in different locations within Nairobi. He must have been doing the lords work. When he got the shoes he texted me ‘thanks babe, but sasa nita create content aje na viatu? A phone would be better’. He was suddenly a content creator?

So I learned that he had lost the phone I gave him while he was busy perambulating in Nairobi drinking and probably sticking his pinus everywhere. And the audacity to demand for a phone? Lol I couldn't breathe.

I blocked bro to oblivion and moved on.

Until I met this other guy who would go like ‘babe, pls pay for this or that I shall refund’ and never refunded! Some bike guy once overcharged me and when I complained he said ‘unakaa sura ya pesa. Hua lazima tugonge mtu kama anakaa pesa’ smh

I cut off my most recent talking stage because, he too, had turned me into an ATM! Idk which part of me attracts broke and broken men tbh. I hope to find a wealthy healed man. I deserve it.