Feeling Hopeless About Marriage? Read This Before You Give Up

Assalamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh brothers and sisters, I understand why you’re here, Alhumdulliah, I recognize the weight you carry the late night thoughts, the endless prayers, and those quiet moments filled with doubt, Perhaps you’ve been searching for a spouse for what feels like an eternity, Maybe you’ve experienced heartbreak, feeling betrayed by those you thought were meant for you. You might have watched others find love and build families, leaving you to wonder, When will it be my turn? Or maybe you’ve tried your best, You opened your heart to someone, believed in something genuine, only to see it crumble in ways you never anticipated, Now, you’re left to pick up the pieces, striving to move forward and learn to trust again, It’s painful and I won’t pretend it isn’t But I assure you, Allah never abandons His believers “And perhaps you hate a thing and it is good for you, and perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for you. And Allah knows, while you do not know.” (Qur’an 2:216) Every delay, every heartbreak, every unanswered dua is not a rejection, it’s a redirection, You may not see the entire picture, but Allah does, He understands the potential pain, the hidden struggles, and the person who may have seemed perfect but could have hurt you in unimaginable ways.

The Prophet ﷺ said: “Allah wrote the decrees of creation fifty thousand years before He created the heavens and the earth.” (Sahih Muslim 2653) This means that your spouse, your future, your entire life was already written before you took your first breath, The pen has dried, and nothing can alter what Allah has decreed for you, So if something didn’t work out, if someone left, or if a proposal fell through, it was never meant for you And that realization is, in itself, a mercy, Perhaps the person you desired wasn’t meant for you, Maybe the reason your duas haven’t been answered yet is that Allah is still preparing something better, This waiting period may not be a punishment, but rather a form of protection.

Because when the time is right, when the moment is written, nothing will stop what is meant for you from reaching you.

But Until Then?Don’t let this waiting period drain you ,let it build you, Work on your character, your deen, your mindset, Become the kind of person you would want to marry, Heal from the past so you don’t carry old wounds into something new and hold onto trust, But trusting Allah’s plan doesn’t mean you stop putting in the effort.

The Prophet ﷺ said:

“Tie your camel first, then put your trust in Allah.” (Tirmidhi 2517)

This means you do your part, You keep making dua, you keep seeking, you keep growing. And then, after you’ve done everything you can, you leave the outcome to Allah with full trust in His wisdom.

May Allah bless you with a spouse who strengthens your Iman, fills your heart with tranquility and walks beside you on the path of righteousness and grant you a love that is rooted in faith, a home filled with barakah, and a journey that brings you closer to Him and your waiting be a means of elevation, your struggles a path to wisdom, and your destiny written with divine mercy and endless blessings Insha Allah Ameen.

Edit: Bless me too, I’m 22, male, and single.