how are y’all selecting roommates/ apartment mates?

since we got next year’s housing application and selection process email, I’ve been thinking about this.

I was rlly frustrated with my roommate and apartment mates of this year (my first year). I decided to go random and I rlly regret that. They were SO messy and noisy at all times. I couldn’t wait to get out of this situation. But now when I have the opportunity to do so, I’m not sure what to do or choose.

I don’t have any friendships that are solid enough that I’d be confident moving in with them. Even the ones I do have are in different colleges or content with their roommates (and might choose them next year too.) And what if one of them agrees and I choose them and it’s still not great? Being friends with someone doesn’t mean you know their exact lifestyle or living habits. What if I end up hating those things about them and only find out once I move in? What if I regret my decision? That’s almost worse cause I had a choice and I still couldn’t choose correctly and be content with my choice. And it could end up ruining one of my very few friendships.

I hate that I have this opportunity and choice and I still can’t make the best of it. (This whole decision making process is very quickly turning into a perfectionism spiral full of self blame and shame for not making more friends or preparing and thinking this through in advance when I knew I would have to make this choice soon😔)