Help me understand as a girl in airsoft

I’ve been playing airsoft for a while now. After a bit I ditched the classic camo patterns and went for more unconventional ones. I painted my M16 pink and bedazzled my Deagle. I also have fake candies on my helmet. The people at the field I’ve since been playing at are great people. Even made me team captain for my first MILSIM and they wanted the team to be called pink unicorns and made sure everyone had a unicorn patch. We had a great time. But then, on the internet (especially tiktok), whenever I say that airsoft is a game and you can have fun, you don’t necessarily have to rock all ranger camo, and you shouldn’t be limited to that, I get not only insults, but recently been told mine is a “buns kit”? What the heck is that? And why? I’ve recently moved back to my home city and had to leave my airsoft friends behind. I’m so scared to look for airsoft fields now.