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thank you very much, i posted here before and I wanted to know what i owe my parents, and thanks to your help y'all I was able to handle this situation.

Today mom asked me if where I am , it was 7:39 pm told her I was on my way and im really busy and we’d talk later in 30 seconds, (I went to uni at 8am then a private session at 4pm for 2.5 hours and was near home at 8:05 pm went to walk with a friend then was home at ~8:52), then she called me again at 8:01 and the convo went like this(she was trying to intimidate me in all these convos and i was really really calm):

Mom: “DON’T CUT OFF THE LINE, where are u ” (in a passive aggressive voice)

Me: “hi mom, I’m with a friend I’m gonna walk with him for ~30 mins near home and im gonna be back”

Mom: “fine don’t take too long, and why didn’t u answer my calls all that time (she called me once and I couldn’t answer 5 mins before this call)”

Me: “I’m sorry I couldn’t respond to the call and I couldn’t keep talking for much longer I need to go, and please tell dad what I told you cause he is calling me and I can’t respond”

Mom: “NO, im not gonna tell him, you call him and tell him”

Me: “he is near you isn’t he? (I know he was home at that time)”

Mom: “she told me no no no, he isn’t, just call him” (very obvious lie)

Me: “I couldn’t call him, fine ill tell him when im home then, bye (hung up )”

On 8:47 (40 mins later) she called me and I responded:

Me: “hi mom”

Mom: “WHERE THE FUCK ARE U >=(”

Me: “im literally beside the apartment, do u want me to get you anything before I come back =), and you seem to be angry are you going to be calm or do I end the call here and talk later ”

Mom: “SEND ME YOUR LIVE LOCATION”

Me: “no mom im not going to send me you location, and again you seem to be angry so for the second time, are u going to talk calmly without screaming or do I cut the call and talk later? ”

Mom: “don’t come back … DON’T COME BACK HOMMEEEEEEEEEEE (deafening scream)”

Me: “ ok we will talk later then =) ”

(she cut the call mid-sentence)

I started listening to jazz music, got myself a donut and a couple of snacks and went home, I was home ~ 8:57 (7 mins later), I entered and greeted my dad. And kept interrogating me on where I was at what time, I told him how my whole day went with time line, then mom came furious and the following convo took place:

Mom: “didn’t I tell you not to come home? ”

Me: “yeee so what? You aren’t going to kick my from my family house”

Mom: “YES I AM”

Me: “for the third time are you going to stop shouting or are you going to talk with respect”

Mom: “IM YOUR MOTHER I DO WHAT THE FUCK I WANT, AND I DIDN’T GIVE BIRTH TO YOU AND FEED YOU AND PAY YOU ALL THAT MONEY FOR YOUR COLLAGE (which is expensive) FOR YOU TO TELL ME HOW TO SPEAK”

Me: “that was your choice, to give birth and …”

(she cut me off shouting nonsense)

So I told her:

Me: “so like I was telling you before you cut me off, this is your job as a parent, you are expected to pay for that stuff because you wanted to even before I was born, however it isn’t expected for me to handle all your bullshit especially for that long”

Mom: “noooo we should pay for you till a certain age and then you leave ”

Dad cut her off and said some more bullshit, while she was shouting.

I told her:

Me: “for the last time you need to choose, are you going to stop shouting or are you going to leave ” (she went silent finally). So I said:

Me: “ I’m not going to pay back my tuition fees by putting up with your bullshit, so either we both talk with respect or we don’t ”

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Mom: “ohhhh so you are judging your parents now!! Ok im going to do what I didn’t do to your older brother who is 7 years older than you, im going to make a list with all your responsibilities and all your responsibilities, BECAUSE U DONT WANNA BE NORMAL YOU WANNA BE SPECIAL ”

Me: “mom that’s gonna be a really short list from my end, im only asking you to be a normal sober mother and stop shouting and screaming like a maniac, that’s it ”

She went nuts and started shouting and screaming and left.

ROUND TWO

Ofc after that dad went to talk to me and told me:

Dad: “you couldn’t talk to your parents in that way, we are your parents! And you are being really inconsiderate as she is really REALLY worried about you and we expect you to be a better son as we were good parents, did you ever ask for anything and we didn’t do ? (with a really slight smile)”

Me: “dad it isn’t my job to be her anxiety medication, and yesss I asked for you to be a good father and you failed miserably, you were hitting me on my face with your slippers and punching me till I was 18, and you were throwing glass plates and mugs at me and was cursing and swearing 24/7 and made sure that I felt I was the fault every single time, and asked mom to be a good mother, and you can see how that failed (ofc he knows cause he cheated on her and got married for a year 2 years ago, FOR FUCK SAKE HE EVEN MADE JOKES TO ME ABOUT IT ABOUT HOW HE WANTS ANOTHER WIFE )”

Dad: “ you really are over reacting, that was a long time ago, when was the last time I hit you on the face, plus that time where I threw plates you drived me nuts, you made me really mad at you (with a slight smile), and don’t forget what you were just talking that way to was your mother, the one that gave birth to you, and she was really worried”

Me: “dad that wasn’t a long time ago, the last time you threw plates on me and hit me with your slippers on my face was a couple of months ago, and is that really your excuse? So its my fault I made you mad and not yours for doing all that? You know what I don’t want the answer, ill just leave ”

He smiled and kissed me on my forehead on the way out.

FUCK, I FEEL LIKE IM LIVING WITH MANIACS, THEY DONT EVEN KNOW HOW THEY ARE FEELING