This sub has a problem with unnecessary hostility

I'm sure a lot of you have noticed it, but it feels like if you're not part of the specific group a post refers to, any comment you make or discussion you try to have is treated as an argument, especially when it comes to the topic of gatekeeping between generations.

Like... I don't get it? Are we not allowed to just have discussions that aren't one-sided? It's really frustrating and contributes a lot to the sub feeling toxic at times. So many times I've replied casually to something adding my own experience only to get a rude or snappy response. What's the point of it?